Separated 4 months ago - he now sends me a letter

[Beaverfever]

I moved back in with family 4 months ago after a long rocky patch with xh.
Found out lots of things after I left about money which means I will never trust him and am angry at him. There was also lots of EA over the course of the relationship which I didn't recognise until I read about it on here.

He has mostly by been in contact over these passed 4 months and when it has I've been anxious, panicky and he hasn't been nice generally and blames me a lot.

I am happy now and can see a future for myself that whilst different will be better for me.

I then receive a letter from him, with a poem.
Wanting me to come home.
It makes me sad that he still can't accept its over.

I just want the house sold and for things to be done so I can properly move on and get on with my life.

Do I respond to the letter or leave it?

Send this:

I'm sorry you feel like that
You've been suck an abusive twat
I'm not coming back
I gave you the sack
Go look for the next victim you prat!

Or just ignore :)

Aw, I got one of those inscribed on a gift for my birthday. Not in a language I speak though and google translate was a bit ropey, I think the gist was 'I am a special snowflake, everything is so hard for me, harder because I am so special, will you wait for me to learn how to speak to you?'.

No, fuck off, here are the divorce papers was the rather un-poetic but, I feel, emotionally meaningful response he got. I thought it was beautifully crafted myself.

I can't make sense of your 2nd paragraph - is this the first 'nice' overture or has he been flip-flopping between nice and nasty? Have you responded before? Are things in hand to sell the house etc?
I'd be inclined to ignore the sentiment in his letter, and if he asks you outright face to face, have a response ready along the lines of your last sentence!

Ignore. Partly because that's the rightthing to do. Partly because it will drive him more mad than any reply you can think off, so double the satisfaction.

But amuse with poems you'd like to send ack, but won't:

You should have thought of this before
Yuu ripped me off, and so much more
I'd rather walk on broken glass
Than come back to you , you abusive ass

So keep your pretty words and tears
They won't make up for all the years
You made me feel a fool, a schmuk
You can screw yourself and go to fuck

Haha. Your poems are amazing and have made me laugh

They are also far more well written than his!

It was my 30th not long after we broke up and he didn't even get me anything after 15 years , so goes to show what he thinks of me.plus his family have totally written me off.

I could write verse after verse of it!

I know it sounds banal but I did find writing messages to my exDP (that I never sent) very theraputic and reading them back in moments of weakaness / sadness also helped. So maybe writing back to him (in rhyme or not) isn't such a bad idea just don't send it

Don't feel sad for him. He doesn't feel sad for you or sorry for what he's put you through. Just sad and sorry for himself.

Good luck OP I know you will be JUST FINE without him.

Have you consulted a lawyer OP? That should be your next move, if not. If you wish to end this relationship and move on, then serve him with divorce papers and get the legal ball rolling. Its the only way to speed things towards the conclusion you want. for you for having the courage to leave.

No lawyer yet.
Was hoping to do it myself (no kids)

I want to hit him with papers soon but I'm scared of making him angry (not that I should, but I've always been a bit fearful of him).
And I also resent spending money when he was a bastard

You could try to do it by mutual consent if you have the patience to wait and try to convince him.

But some things are worth spending money on.

As for his letter, I think short and to the point would suffice: too little, too late.

You need a lawyer, please don't do it yourself.

And I would return his poem to sender - not at this address.

Just ignore and start divorce proceedings.