relationship fixed thanks to relate - now to celebrate..

[DimpledThighs]

So mnetters, you have not let me down before. Me and DH nearly seperated in the summer. Thanks to advice on here and some lovely close friends we went to relate. I cannot praise them enough as some may know from others threads. They truely did fix our relationship. I would love to go away in teh new year for a lovely weekend (i cannot bring myself to use the word romantic) so you lovelies - what are you r best suggestions????

tell me about relate

okay custardo - the bottom line is go. On your own if DH won't be best if you both go. We were literally at the bags packed stage and it was truely a last resort that neither of us thought would work and it turned us around - infact he has just emailed me to say he loves me (insert sick icon here if we had one!)

It helped us realise that all our arguements were cenred around one longstanding disagreement and some issues to do with his own upbringing. Once we confronted those and dealt with them we are in a position where an arguement about watching the football remains an arguement about wathcing the football and doesn't spiral out of control.

I cannot express how much better my self esteem and my life is now!!!!

Ask me more if you want!

i have been, my dh thinks its a "have a go at dh" session

only its him having a go at him - not me but when he came out he said 2WELL what do you think"

i said - can't wait for next one have loads more to say

whereup on the got the hump because he doesn't want to go to these things if its just a slag at him session

well it that or fuck off love

it was just the initial assessment - we are still going to go

To answer your question, try Prague. Fab in Jan, hot choccies in nice cafes, cocktails till 3am, some really nice hotels. We went to Four Seasons last time, it was fab.

my dh hated teh intitial session - thought it was 'al women together' but was much better wiht our regular counsellor and he found it as useful as me.

We NEVER talked about the sessions inbetween times!

mumblechum - prague does sound nice - do you know any good hotels or deals?

Prague is lovely idea.
Cheaper is Bratislava, but still lovely & a bit more 'off the beaten track'
More expensive but equally special 'winter' cities - Stockholm (my favourite) and Vienna (although we didn't actually leave our suite at the Imperial very often but it looked pretty out of the window! And the Imperial was top)
Or New York is surprisingly do-able for a weekend if you get good flight times.
And CONGRATULATIONS! That's such a lovely story to hear.

Budapest. Coffee, chocolate, wine and lots of thermally heated swimming pools (Which admittedly is slug's own private version of heaven)

Good to hear Relate worked for you. How do they run the sessions - in a group (embarrassed horror!) or individual couples? How does the counsellor stop it turning into a slagging off session (or don't they?)? Interested to hear more about how it works...

relate didnt work for me but i am glad it has for you

me and my new bloke are off to prague for new year

Lou

Mind your handbag, and pockets, wonderful place but rife with pickpockets.

i heard that, i dont keep anything in my pockets usually, my bag is v small and tucked under my arm

dimplethighs, what a lovely post. Pleased for you both

Agree Budapest is fab...

P.S. This is a lovely story. I see people say sometimes that MN as a whole is too quick to advise leaving a DH/DP, so it's particularly good to hear about a situation where just the reverse happened.

Glad to hear relate worked for you & that your marriage is now on the up.