Would you accept this? Birthday related

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Me and my ex (we were together for a year but broke up in July) recently got back together, trying to take it slowly and see if we can make it work this time.

Yesterday was my birthday. He came round to see me in the evening and didn't so much as bring a card.. this really upset me as I felt like I must mean so little to him. I said sarcastically "thanks for the card", he said "Don't start, was a bit short notice".. ?! As if I just suddenly told him it was my birthday. Even at short notice surely buying a card isn't hard to do.

I just feel I am totally wasting my time now. Or am I reading too much into this?

Op, if he is like this now so early on in the relationship what is he going to be like in ten years time. He is thoughtless and should be making more of an effort, bearing in mind you have just got back together and trying to make it work.

Can I just check - he did NOTHING to mark your birthday at all ?

And he's trying to make it work this time ? I wonder what hed be like if he wasn't making an effort

Thank you all for telling me what I needed to hear. I KNEW it already, but when so many of you agree this is shocking (and this is only part of it) it has given me the drive to just totally cut him out of my life. Thank you :flowers:

Oh OP. in answer to your OP, no, I wouldn't accept it no. And I think we are doing the right thing

Agree. The don't start thing is so controlling
Short notice? What 365 days after the last one?
Not even close to acceptable
Dump him
Happy birthday btw

Send him a card.

Fuck Off. Sorry it's not a better card. Short notice.

Sorry OP, what a horrible man. Birthdays do mean something in our culture. it's a day for making someone feel just a little bit special. He's clearly never planning to make you feel special.

Dump.

Happy birthday for yesterday.

Well silence all day.. Just now 'wanna see me?' 'No'.. I feel empowered! He isn't happy saying I make no effort.. Lol that's beyond laughable

You made no effort?!?!?

Oh, please do forgive me, OP, but that is comedy gold. Thank you!

Ditto what Matilda said.

Wow the making no effort! He is completely clueless.

I put up with that bs from my stbxh as in I don't think he's ever given me a card or celebrated any holiday. He's never given me a birthday gift or Christmas gift. It was important to me! I told him that but he just never gave a crap. Cheap, lazy, self-absorbed. Can't wait to be rid of him!

Well done OP.
You posted because you already knew really.
I'm glad we've helped confirm things for you.

Well he has finally got something right. From now on you will be making no effort. So little in fact you won't even see or speak to him.