Talk to me about leaving a relationship with nothing and no where to go

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Hi, I don't really know where to start, and this is quite painful to write, but I think I need to leave my relationship because of how miserable it makes me. I don't really want to get into writing a long list of justifications and all the shit I go through, but I feel completely downtrodden, DP makes it clear he has no respect for me and my self esteem is terrible. I can't do anything with my life in this situation because DP won't even consider us paying for childcare or "babysitting" DS on the days he doesn't have to work so that I can get a job or do something to help me get a job.

I feel awful, part of me still wants things to miraculously change because we have a one year old and I want everything to be perfect for him. I know it won't.

But my situation is totally shit, I could cry. I've got nothing, no money, live in rented accommodation. I don't think my parents would put us up because they live in a tiny 2 bed house with a dog my DS is allergic to. I want to apply for teacher training for next September which I should be able to manage financially because of the grants, finance and help my mum is willing to offer (for which I am very, very grateful). But I think about staying in my current situation for another 10 months and I just can't bare the thought of it.

I can't just say fuck it and leave with no where to go, I need to be able to support my son and put a roof over his head. I have applied for jobs in near my mum but I never hear back, I feel like I'm waiting forever for a lucky break but nothing is coming my way.

Can someone help please? Sorry, having a bit of a wobble right now.

Sorry to pop the bubble but my WC parents/family were totally entranced by my posh ex and never stopped being in forelock tugging awe.

Mind, mine was an abusive family (now nc) and when I left him they flocked to his side. So just as you get cunts in the M/UC you get them in the WC as well. Cuntdom is no respecter of persons. Your family may be decent - but imo that will have nothing to do with their class.

Definitely this is WA material. Keep going lovely

If you cant get him to leave/its only him on the Lease ..you are unlucky. As otherwise you could stay and get housing benefit. Its only an idea but you can get long term house sitting jobs(its all web based, google housesitting and register yourself). You get free accomodation for house/cat/chicken sitting (not dogs in your case). I considered it as a stop gap in your situation once and a friend also did it. She got 3months rent free in a cute cottage in the New Forest looking after an ageing cat, which gave her time to sort herself out rent free/save some £. Other than that, if you have a child, housing people will consider you high priority so give them a call.

And tell you parents, they love you, they will help and they might have some ideas too. They might know someone who has a spare room for a while if their dog is a problem etc or loan you a small amount?

I just came across this thread as I was looking for advice and I wondered if you ever left him and got your teaching qualification? Hope you are happy and you and your little boy are okay XX