DH works 40 hours a week, while I'm a SAHM of a four week old baby. Most nights, if DH finishes work at 7, he'll spend the night with us. My DS tends to be wide awake from about 7 until 12.30 or so, which is made up for with a 6 hour sleep (yay!).
This evening, DH went out with some of his mates after work. Fine, no problem there. He rang saying he'd be home around 10.30/11.00, and he'd make dinner then. We're night owls who don't have a regular dinner time, so this was a fine arrangement by me. HOWEVER, when DH arrived home, he was late and had quite a bit to drink, so he sat around for a little bit looking ill, then passed out on the couch.
The thing that really bugs me about this is that he's not working until 2.00pm tomorrow, but now I'm pretty sure he'll spend the morning sleeping off his hangover. My DS is currently screaming his head off in the other room because he's been awake since 8.00pm (it's now 1.30am), he's tired, but too tired to sleep. He's in the other room because I've been feeding, changing, and soothing him for the last 5.5 hours and I need a break. I've had him all day. I appreciate my DHs right to see mates, I don't want to forbid him from going out every now and again, and I also appreciate the amount he works for me and DS, BUT I also feel that it's selfish of him to get totally pissed and cease to function for the next twelve hours, when we need him at home as well.
On top of that, he drove home. This irritates me because of all the things he could do right now, the worst would be dying. I wish he wouldn't drive when he's drunk or stoned, but I'm also not sure if bringing this up would lead to an awkward conversation that DOESN'T lead to a cessation of his behaviour.
Now I'm just ranting. I'm tired. I'm at the end of what has felt like a very long tether and I just wanted to get some stuff off my chest. Thanks to anyone who listened (read). I appreciate it.