don't know what to do

[Honestlyme]

He keeps acting like my college course isn't as important as his job. i can't get work done so i'm getting about two hours of sleep per night tryin to get it all done. I've tried talking to him but he just wants to play online games or on his xbox. he only want our children when they've had their nappies done and have been fed. i can't keep doing this or i'll end up ill. what am i supposed to do?

gather his belongings, put them in a bag and tell him to go back and live with his mother as you need a grown up around at this time of your life

not very practical advice I know, sorry

thanks but i can't do that as i haven't got a bank account, or a passport and all our money goes into his account. plus we have just added more bills to our home and i couldn't afford to pay them on my own

Try starting by talking to him and asking him to go to counselling with you.

get your own bank account, or make it a joint account. He sounds like he enjoys being king of the hill. Your course is important, he quite possiblily does not want the current situation to change - you unskilled and at home.

What you do is discuss sharing of responsibity for the children and the kids. Him having a job is NO excuse for sitting on his arse all night playing games.

My dh arrives home, baths feds, plays andputs kids to bed.

I think you should write a list of the good things about him, so that you can encourage those skills out into daily life.

All your money goes into his account?! WTF!

Stop being a doormat and create some independence for yourself. And start with giving him his children, firmly, and saying 'I'll just be a couple of hours, I have work to do'

Marriage is supposed to be a partnership.