My MIL is a fruit loop and I can take no more.

[PeachyIsNowAChristmasFruit]

We've had enough issues with the old battleaxe over the years, but tonight I thik she blew it. She hasn't phoned for over ayear, we spoke to her briefly on her birthday in the Spring (we sent a gift but she never bothered to collect the parcel from the post office). Since then have called several times and been hung up on; once she answered my 6 year old (at the time) AS son, heard him say hi Grandma its- then hung up on him

Anyway I answer the phone, lovelya nd nice, can I speak to DH? Yup sure

Pass the phone over- right wanna get this in the open. Whyc an't I see my grandchildren? Why didn't I have ds3 for (local event)? why do you ignore me? Why is C (me) so rude?

Eer sorry??????

last tie we saw her she called DS1 (the AS one) a freak thinking we weren't in earshot; she told the older 2 (then 5 and 4) that FIL (recent divorce) beat her- lies.

I am so furious . She said we were ignoring her over Christmas, yet she said she was too busy unless we went on a day we couldn't and then we said if she let us know what other time she was free we'd be there.

Ar DH and I living in a parallel universe where caring is evil or something?????????????????

don't think we'll be bothering to contact her again

Sounds like Alzheimer's.

On the other hand your 'over the years' comment may tell the real truth: she is a mad old cow.

Sympathy - calling your ds a freak unforgivable crime worth ignoring her forever over.

I take it she's off your Christmas card list..?

She's already been bought an Oxfam gift, she'll get that still. She's binned the ds's gifts though, as we can't make it on the specified day to collect ( an entire christmas party ahd been arranged around my DH's work shifts on that day by friends)

Peachy, I feel for you, she sounds like my MIL who is officially loopy.

Just try not to get too wound up. Easier said than done, I've come very close to tearing into my MIL, but it's just going to make you feel worse. It sounds like you've made quite enough effort and if she can't be bothered to be part of your family, it's her loss. It's very hard for your Dh, though, of course they feel torn.

I've learned to just ignore my MIL's foulness as saying anything just makes my dh feel really bad, and it's not his fault