When did you know you'd met the right one?

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I've been on LOTS of dates this year. I've been open-minded and given people a chance who I usually wouldn't.

But took me until September to meet someone that has shaken up my world (in a good way) - he's funny, attractive and gives me butterflies like I've never felt before. He's attentive, and even when he went on a 'lads holiday,' I heard from him every day - he initiated the contact every time.

I've not felt like this ever before. I've been in 3 serious relationships in the past, and after the most recent one ended, about a year ago, I decided I wanted to make sure I didn't fall into a relationship - I wanted to be sure about the person.

Obviously, it's only just November, so even though I feel like I know him very well, I can't know it all. My feelings really have run away with me though...It's unexpected. I even feel like this could really be something, even though it's so early on.

What are your experiences of finding the one that became your husband/someone for the long haul?

maras How lovely - 40 years!

I laughed until I nearly wet myself when we were in the car together. I realised I hadn't ever been that relaxed and happy before. I realised I wasn't trying to be anyone else, I was just being me and I was content.

These are lovely! My advice would be to not close doors you may have previously done- physical attractiveness, hobbies, tastes etc. I have absolutely nothing in common on paper with DH but we just work well. Look for someone who will be your scaffolding through tough times, not just blow your socks off in bed. And kindness, my DH is incredibly kind (at work which I got to witness for years) which is a wonderful trait.
My last ex was an utter gaslighting, cruel twat who destroyed my confidence, I did the usual 'stop telling friends and family' so they didn't hate him which mDe things far worse and lonely. Still most about DH but for far more acceptable trivial household shite.

For me, it was a quiet understanding. I just knew. 6 weeks later engaged. Married the next year. And now been married 2 1/2 years. Together 3. We have a son together. It's effortless. That's how you know. If you don't have to think about it. Then it's right

DH and I have been together 20 years and I think it's hard at this distance to remember how we felt when we first met. I remember just liking him a lot and spending an evening chatting to him despite there being a big crowd of us out together. He really fancied me from the go-get and was just always about and we were friends but for me it was more of a slow burner. First time I slept with him I thought it was going to be a ONS but it just kept happening . Once we got together properly we effectively lived together almost immediately, I just wanted to talk to him more than anyone else. I still love that time of day when we have both arrived home and can unwind and chat about our days together.

Thanks tilly.We had a huge party in July and loads of family/,friends who were at our wedding managed to come.