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Urgent - can I invite myself along?

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kitsnicket · 31/10/2015 16:56

Hey MNers! So I'm at uni and I'm on Facebook. I just saw a pretty cool looking event but I know most of the other people I know are going to a party - except one international student I know okay, but not really well. She's going to this cool looking event. I'm wondering whether to FB message her to ask if she's going and maybe we could go together, but I saw that she maybe (?) has an old friend over - can't tell if it's an old picture on FB but not sure. Is it okay to still send her a noncommittal message or should I drop it?

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goddessofsmallthings · 31/10/2015 17:53

Have you been invited to attend this 'cool looking event' or is it open to the public in which case we could all go?

If you're not hoping to go as her plus 1 why not check it out, see if she's there, and go on to the party if the event is full of posers and liggers?

@MoreBlethers - is that you Imperial?

FeliciaJollygoodfellow · 31/10/2015 17:54

I'd do it!

One of my biggest regrets about uni is not taking those types of opportunities. And therefore missing out on making friends.

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kitsnicket · 31/10/2015 17:59

So...I did it. She read my messages then marked them as unread. Now I'm obsessing over whether she thought I w was being clingy or coming onto her...

I know, it all sounds so petty and stupid.

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ImperialBlether · 31/10/2015 18:06

What did you say to her?

Never mind her, anyway - you have to go to this thing even if you have to go on your own.

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kitsnicket · 31/10/2015 18:09

ack, I know I sound crazy, I just wrote something like (obviously it's fine if you already have people to go with, I hope this wasn't incredibly presumptuous!) x" which was meant to be read like..."The more, the merrier," but now...

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velourvoyageur · 31/10/2015 18:11

aw bless you, I think that sounds ok, nothing about you sounds clingy etc. It's her loss :)

ImperialBlether · 31/10/2015 18:14

I'm waiting for a thread to start "I think a girl in my class thinks I'm gay."

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kitsnicket · 31/10/2015 18:17

Stop it, I want to curl up and die!!

Although, seriously...

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spudlike1 · 31/10/2015 18:23

Can I come too

QuintShhhhhh · 31/10/2015 18:26

You had some really good suggestions what to write in your message without sounding needy and lonely though ...

goddessofsmallthings · 31/10/2015 18:31

How very uncool of her. Are you sure she's been invited to this event?

This is a case of feel the fear and do it anyway... so, best dungarees frock on and off you go to mix and mingle with the swelegant crowd. If you should see her, simply raise a cool eyebrow and wait to see if she acknowledges you otherwise you might get done for stalking.

ElleAndAitch · 31/10/2015 18:40

Intrude. If you don't ask you don't get.

ElleAndAitch · 31/10/2015 18:43

Ah, I see you already did. You did nothing wrong, OP! I hope you go anyway and have a fabulous time.

WeAllHaveWings · 31/10/2015 18:48

Go and enjoy your night and if you see her there, stop and give a friendly hello talk a little about the event and if she doesn't seem interested excuse yourself to do/see something else with a light "maybe catch you later"

RiceCrispieTreats · 31/10/2015 18:51

How do you mark read messages as unread on FB?

coffeeisnectar · 31/10/2015 18:52

Go on your own.

I went to see the manic street preachers on my own and got adopted by a large group of lads from northern Ireland who danced the night away with me and then made sure I got into a taxi safely afterwards.

Brilliant night.

ImperialBlether · 31/10/2015 19:11

My daughter used to go to see the Manics on her own when she was 13-18, coffeeisnectar. She used to meet up with people from a Manics forum.

coffeeisnectar · 31/10/2015 22:27

Your daughter has amazing taste in music :o

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