Why do men say stupid things?!!

[BeeXxX]

I just need to get this off my chest, because he's really pissed me off!! Had a couple of friends over tonight, only just going to bed...we were discussing relationships and children etc. The men (my partner and his friend) have been drinking, and me and my friend haven't.
So I mentioned that I heard a boys name I liked today, for if me and my partner decide to have anymore children...which won't be for a while as we have had two boys in two years. My partner then says "we aren't having anymore boys ever! I want a girl, I don't ever want another boy" so I counter argued that we could easily end up with another boy, to which he flatly said not a chance.
A couple of weeks ago we had a similar discussion and he said that if I got pregnant with another boy, he would ask me to abort. I have no idea if that was a serious statement as he had a drink then too, but I'm so hurt and fucking pissed off that I don't want to talk to him at all. He's a very religious guy too which makes it even worse.
God I hate men!!!!!!! X

He is ONE man with a - frankly - very unusual view (and possibly a drink problem).

God I hate men!!!!!!!

Yes because their all the same.

I find the men I've dated often don't think before they speak.

That is pretty rude imo, have you told him how much it's hurt you?

I find the men I've dated often don't think before they speak

That says as much about you, as it does them.

Because men are human beings, oddly enough, and some human beings say some really stupid things, especially after alcohol. I still, at my relatively advanced age, say the odd daft/insensitive/plain wrong thing myself when stone cold sober, and I'm not even a man... But it does sound as though your partner may have Issues, unless he's on a badly-judged wind-up.

It's not a men issue it's a your partner issue. What an unbelievably disgusting thing to say.

I've heard many women say equally stupid things. And your partner is one man and doesn't represent them all.

Don't discuss important things, or things that are important to you, with a drunk person.

Men don't have a monopoly on saying stupid things.
It's your partner that's rude, drunk and thoughtless here, not 'men'.

Holy shit. I've said some pretty stupid stuff in my time but that's outrageous.

How often does he get drunk?

OP, the question is not "Why do men say stupid things?" but

a) Why does YOUR partner say stupid things?
b) Why are YOU with a partner who says stupid things?

No need to tar all us men with the same brush.

No no it's not all men, just yours and that type. He even said he would want you to abort?? Disgusting pig. Don't blame the alcohol too, that just sounds like him.

Fair enough, not all men say stupid things. I apologise for tarring all men with the same brush.

He doesn't get drunk very often at all but when he does he says things like this. He said about aborting another boy in front of my sister as well, which was mortifying. He knows I would never ever even consider doing that, I would sooner get rid of him if he ever asked me. That's why I'm unsure whether it was just a stupid statement or whether he would actually ask me.

He really wants a girl but I'm happy whatever we have, although I have a soft spot for my baby boys :). But we aren't considering more children for a few years yet so it's a moot point, just hate what he has said to me. It makes me start overthinking our relationship and everything he knows I stand for. I thought we were on the same page but I'm doubting it now. X

You are still considering having more children with this man?!!

Have you discussed his behaviour with him when he's sober?

Don't get pregnant with this man.