How do you split the baby/toddler care between you and DP?

[Nettee]

I am just wondering whether I am alone with a DP who does so very little. He plays with DS and reads to him and will sometimes feed him something I have made. He just won't cook for DS, change a nappy, bath him, dress him or get up in the night when he wakes.

I wonder if it is a lack on confidence thing combined with not being able to cope with DS crying, especially if DP is tired.

(DS is 21 months)

Good for you Lucyju, glad it has made you want to change things a bit.

For all those whose DH's do not pull their weight, it is worth doing something about it! not even for you but for your children's relationship with their dad for the rest of their childhood and life really! It has to be good, can't do them any harm to spend time together, go for it and get some breaks out of it too!