Emotional abuse, how to prove.

[Homely1]

So many people are affected by emotional abuse; I understand that there will be laws coming in regarding this. Nonetheless, I feel that abusers get away with it and continue on abusing even is a relationship has ended. In real life, how does one prove emotional abuse legally in retrospect (there is nothing to 'see' and an abuser will never admit to it) such that the abuser get dealt with.

Thank you all. Those affected, I think, don't often recognise what they are going through as emotional abuse. The check lists are good. It took me about 3 years to realise! The effects are awful, whilst living through it but also afterwards. The abusers should pay a price but my feeling is that it is immensely difficult to prove. I also think that such abusers are also good at manipulation and lying.

I just wondered if anyone could tell me how to prove it legally! Recording is great but I guess may not be legal as some posters have mentioned.

As far as I know, the proposed new law will only cover 'coercive control' so will apply only to relationships where through threats, the perpetrator controls another person's finances or personal freedom.

So it won't cover many aspects of EA which by their very nature; would be very difficult to prove or quantify.

I think the media sold it as an 'emotional abuse' law and it wouldn't be and even 'coercive control' hasn't been made law yet.

Homely I thought you were having a theoretical discussion about the difficulties inherent in proving it. Are you actually asking how you can prove your DP is EA? As a PP said iirc the new law hasn't been introduced yet. There are a few police forces trialling a new way of speaking to victims and perpetrators around DV and EA There was a Guardian article that discussed it Guardian article

Thank you so much..I guess I am really asking how I can prove it..

Emotional Abuse... taking all your friends and family from you attempting to allienate your kids from you. Working day and night on destroying your self confidence. stealing lying and being hurtful in every way they can think of....for the joy of it.... I suppose you have to suffer a wonderful person turning into afore mentioned to understand

I tried to run I tried to fight I tried to ask for help. I kicked him out. You know when you start to dream about revenge that the rules don't cover it. Like the mother said"choose a life partner carefully its the most important decision you'll make. Dont get me wrong. He had the power to stop PA and take to EB. And hed rather play with his half dead mouse than kill it. Id rather move to an island where there are no men than make this mistake again. but even opening this page i found his mail on the box as if hed tried to get in. If women can open the bathroom door they turn the gun on there opponent. Theres nothing weak about me. I just fell for a Narsasist. oops now my only choice is to wait let them finish growing then go find a cardboard box quickly secretively and taking my birth certificate.

you prove EA by recording his words of abuse. Take videos if possible. write the names of anyone who sees or hears abuse down. write his strategies down and the outcome. write down how it makes you feel. go to Police and call them to your house because this is recorded as long as you can survive that. a Solititor can help you with that... so save your pennies secretly too. keep your domuments hiden where noone else knows such as a relatives house or in a car. never disclose under duress where that is or where you might escape to. safe your own life. It will get worse. No your not mad.

Hmn theoretical discussions need to help people and their kids. this isnt really a subject for voyeurism or gossiping. And if you want to do this work you really would be better with some knowledge but truth is hard to find especially from those that survive it....we just want to move on and forget it!!!

You prove by taking evidence: phone messages, texts, emails, witnesses and writing a journal of evidence.

For those unsure how emotional abuse is different to an ordinary argument; domestic abuse is a pattern of behaviour, used in order to maintain power and control over the other person.