Those who were/are NC with parents - did you regret it when they died?

[WhoTheFuckIsSimon]

Ive been NC with my mother for nearly a year now. She's in her 70s. So possibly she could die soon. Though of course she could drag on for 20+ years.

My brother is also NC with her. My dad died a while ago but had divorced her prior to this.

There's no way I can get back in touch with her. She's poison. Makes up nasty shit. Tries to get between me and dd, between me and Dh. Says stuff to to dd and then denies it and accuses dd of being a pathological liar, etc. I get the occasional nasty, lengthy letter from her which just rants about how ashamed I should be of myself.....not entirely sure what for.

I'm glad I'm not in touch with her, the last year has been the best of my life. But I worry about whether I will have any regrets when she dies. She has no family and my step mother who sees her weekly at church says she doesn't have any friends either. I don't like to think of any elderly person been lonely but then I keep telling myself it's her fault!

If I refuse to have anything to do with organising the funeral and there's no other family who sorts it out? The council?

I believe that under the public health regs the council has to sort it out where there are no relatives to organise a funeral; not sure if this also applies if there is a relative but they're not prepared to act, though

I was no contact (they moved to another country and didn't bother to tell me) for 20 years and they got in touch with me a couple of years ago and came to this country. One of them was ill. I relented and met up with them and kept up contact when they went back. Since then the other parent has a terminal illness and they have come over to see me again. I decided to stay in contact and to let the past go although it was hard. I didn't want them to die and for me to have any regrets. Its hard but I am getting on with them as I am not the same person as I was 20 years ago.