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When you feel like he could be 'the one' - is this too silly to apply here?

30 replies

567y · 28/10/2015 20:27

I've been dating since breaking up with DP of 3 years in February.

I've dated a lot. Had one 4 month-er, but that fizzled out at my decision.

Since last Wednesday, I've been messaging someone new, and I already feel like he's going to be someone amazing. The difference with this guy is that he was introduced via a friend, rather than online dating, so I feel I have background info on him (it's all good). We're not meeting until Tuesday next week, and I think about him all the time, it's ridiculous! I never analyse messages or 'wait for him to text,' but with this one I've been doing just that!

Any experiences you can share similar to this?!

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ObsidianBlackbirdMcNight · 29/10/2015 17:26

You date a lot but you still have the idea of 'the one'? Wow.time to lose that silly notion or you will get in over your head. You've barely been talking to this guy a week, the one? Are you 14? Jeez.

Handywoman · 29/10/2015 17:50

I think you can get a really great vibe from someone by text or messaging - and it can be utterly, completely misleading!

Even when you meet and 'click', have great sex, they can STILL be totally wrong for you.

As baggagereclaim say, DATING is the discovery phase - not TEXTING!!!

So yes, - too silly......

Cynical? Moi?

spudlike1 · 29/10/2015 18:09

At this point in the proceedings he is pure fantasy all in your head .
Slow down

spudlike1 · 29/10/2015 19:10

Get a grip woman !!!

marzipanmaggie · 29/10/2015 19:14

Yeah you really can't know a thing about someone until you meet them.

I once had a bit of a fantasy about someone I knew professionally and spoke to on the phone a lot over a period of about a year -- he was very intelligent, witty and engaging and his voice was really sexy and I have to admit I did start to fantasize about him. I finally met him for lunch (again in a professional capacity but with a high degree of curiosity) and he was so physically not my type that it brought me up short and left me feeling almost winded with the shock.

Doesn't mean you won't fancy the pants off him when you meet but its really not a banker and its a waste of your energy to get too involved now....

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