Anyone ended up in a relationship with someone they used to not like but now love?

[Beaverfever]

I know a man, who I have recently started seeing.

I've known him over a year and in the beginning I found him ever so shy and nervous and thought he was a bit of a wet blanket which I didn't like.
He needed to stand up for himself as people were taking advantage.

Anyway, we became friends and he gradually got more confidence and I found out the reasons why he was so insular before.

Anyway, he has kept on surprising me to the point that I started to really fancy him after about 9 months and here we are.

He is amazing, and has shown me how different he is to the man I once thought he was. I also find him ever so handsome and sexy too, but that's another matter I guess.

So I'm just wondering if this happens often or if it's a strange one and I should be falling head over heels at first sight with someone?

I think it probably happens a lot, not everyone falls in love straight away. I'm dating a guy who I was unsure about, I'm still not 100% sure but he's a lovely person and I have never met anyone like him ( always puts me first, a gentleman but a bit shy and nervous at times ).
Go with it and see how things go.

Yes! I went online dating in June last year. I was dating two men, and ended up going out properly with one of them who turned out to be a total knob, so he was the wrong choice on hindsight. The reason I didn't see the other as a prospect was because, stupidly, I thought he wanted 'too much' of me if that makes sense. My time, affection Etc I could tell he really really liked me, and I wasn't sure I was able to reciprocate- I didn't want anything too serious at the time. I feel horrible saying it but he was just so 'nice'.

We did however keep in touch as friends and would meet for a few drinks every couple of weeks. Once the pressure was off we were so much more relaxed with eachother, and just had the best times when we met up. I still didn't see him as boyfriend material though.

Then I unexpectedly became ill. The man who was supposed to be my boyfriend, was rubbish, and once I was out of the hospital left me on my own to deal with everything and it became so obvious he didn't care anywhere near as much as he should. I nearly died and all he could bang on about was his upcoming work trip and the new tires he'd got for his bike, and left me on my own to go out with his mates.

The other man was brilliant. He would come and watch films with me and make sure I was okay. Never felt he had an agenda, he just wanted to be there for me.

I finally dumped my boyfriend. I don't know when it happened but suddenly I saw the first guy in a totally different light. It hit me like a tonne of bricks, and when he told me he loved me I said it back without hesitating. I am honestly the happiest I have ever been. That was six months ago and we've just moved into a flat together

I haven't ,no ,but had 2 colleagues who finally got together after a seriously platonic friendship before. She didn't see him as anything more ,and had told him this when he asked her out at a work do. Fast forward about 10 years and they're now married with a child

I forgot to add that he asked her out a few years later and that's when it developed into something more serious. Not after she told him she didn't fancy him , lol.

Yep. Am now happily married to him and couldn't imagine anyone better :)

First impressions can change.

The first time I met dh I thought he was a complete knob. Years later we became really close friends but I never fancied him at all. I was in love with his best friend in fact. But a few years later when that crush had passed and dh was still my rock and the one who made me feel safe I started to see him differently and him me. We got together soon after and 14 years later have 2dc and one of the strongest relationships I know.

Well, DH and I didn't like each other much when we met as students 30 years ago.

We lived in the same student house together and just grew on each other over the first few months.

We've been married for 22 years now, and our three DDs are ages 20, 16 and 13.

I guess you never really know where something like a good relationship is going to come from. It can happen when you are least expecting it, and from the most surprising sources.