There is a lady whom I attend church with together. This lady also comes from the same country as me. She has a child who is the same age as mine. She ignored me first time around however when she found out I was building friendship with other people she leaned in and started talking. I made myself vulnerable by saying I was single parent in her presence. This seem to have triggered something as she went on to tell me that she had a teen pregnancy and had since remarried.
The 1st day she followed me around at a instant when I told her I was going to have a look at a new building the church had recently bought. Most of the time she waits for me but I am way too uncomfortable with her. She just hangs and because I speak to noone else its a great opportunity for her to come over and talk. Plus I think she feels its ok to come talk to me since we are from the same country. I prefer interacting with different people.
Today my daughter came around requesting to go around with her daughter. As I was speaking to her she was pointing fingers to me (as in authorative body language whilst talking). She also admitted being a very overprotective parent and asked her daughter to make her some tea.
My daughter is on the continued list for the secondary school where her daughter attends as it is a very good school but feeling a bit uncomfortable already but not sure if I have to compromise simply because of her. Her daughter is catholic but they move
Its really off the hook. I myself have come to know a lot about controlling people as I moved away from a long term abusive relationship with my ex. I am also in counselling.
There is an option for me to attend a different service earlier, which would immediately stop all this. My daughter will also get to meet new friends.
This is really giving me a bit of a headache. What can I do ?