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So angry with myself

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whateverloser · 25/10/2015 18:07

I need counselling, I know that, but my nasty piece of work stbxh, is highly skilled at getting into my head. He left 18months ago- I had a ten week old baby as well as 4 other dc. He doesn't see any of them or pay anything- CMS involved, but a year on it hasn't been to court. Anyway, recently, he has had a brush with the law. He was genuinely scared and I think he thought he could have gone to prison. He has had a warning- I know the ins and outs from the police, as I was the victim of his fraud. Even after all that, I worry about him. He does have mental health issues, although undiagnosed, but I know this is no excuse for his behaviour- he has been truly horrible to me and has abandoned his children completely. My issue is, how do you reach the point of not caring ? I know what he is- a manipulative narcissist, but I genuinely worry about him. How do you stop yourself doing that? If not I feel that my life is in limbo. I don't want him back; I just want him out of my head. Thanks

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IsYourNameMichaelDiamond · 25/10/2015 18:11

You tell yourself that you don't care until you don't. Write it in a journal, say it into the mirror, hell... write and record a song about it. Eventually you get to a point where you feel human sympathy and concern in an abstract way, but are not directly affected or involved (or at least that's the plan!) Hmm

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