About how we don't understand each other. I brought it up. I cried, told her how I felt, she brought up all the ways in which she cares (she's practical rather than emotional; will worry about and care about me physically, how I'm eating etc but not actually ask about how things are, we live together), cried and walked away as she was getting annoyed. Was very defensive.
I said some things I shouldn't have - said she has trouble forming good relationships (this is true) and she replied that she knew, why did I have to tell her what was obvious 
We had family counselling unsuccessfully when I was aged 13-16 (few occasions) which was just terrible. I resent it a bit because I felt a bit like my parents' happiness was being made my responsibility. I know that's probably not accurate but I wish I had been more low key and less in your face; I was a normal child, polite and nice and normal, and I don't think going in all guns blazing was the answer. She suggested counselling again but I don't that's the answer - I just wish she could listen to my concerns non-judgementally and hear me out rather than being so defensive and hurt by my "accusations" - am I asking for too much?