Its really happening and now im terrified.

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Firstly sorry I have been posting so much but no one to really speak to in R/L.

Major silence and huffs from him 3 weeks ago, same thing really, he is very moody which I put down to his cannabis use, which he uses a lot of.

I had enough and didn't pander to him, so he announces hes had enough, moving out etc.

Today he has been offered a house and now im so terrified! Im sick!!

I have been fine give or take a day or 2 over the past few weeks, he has given me his ring back 2 weeks ago and said my distance and unloving nature as pushed his over and cant see anything changing.

Maybe he is right, maybe it is me. But the mood swings and days of silences broke me, the wondering what I had done wrong and walking on eggshells.

And now I find myself minimising all the se things and asking myself, is it me?

I was you 5 years ago.

I remember the panic and terror. It is all engulfing. But you need to focus on the facts.

This man wants to shut your life down. He does not want you to be the person you are.

That's wrong.

Take it from me, your child will blossom about 3 days after this poisonous man leaves your airspace.

You will feel fucking awful for a day or so, but when you breathe free air for a bit, you won't feel quite so monumentally stupid to have allowed such a sub standard man into your life. And to have saddled your son with a shitty dad.

I felt all this and more. Within about 2 weeks I saw my son grow in confidence before my eyes, and that helped me feel better. Sure it wasn't easy, but a walk in the park in comparison to a life with a controlling weed smoker.

At least you have your family, your mum has the right approach and hopefully will support your rise to freedom and happiness.

Take each day as it comes, but your only objective is to met this man go and leave your home. The rest we'll deal with once he's gone.

Keep posting. We're here for you.

It is just me and DC today, when he was here he hasn't said much.

Its the mind games. A few weeks back I had a social event, I didn't want to mention it as I know it causes friction, even though I really wanted to go.He said if I didn't go he would leave faster than he planned?? So I went and he then says he thought it was very remorse I went as I know this is what causes us problems.

your mother is right - you're better off without this loser.
be glad this fucking waster is out of your house.
i hope you never take him back.