Hi all. After 11years of our relationship last weekend I called time. There was a drunken physical shove and subsequent infidelity and I had to draw the line after years of similar happening. I feel utterly broken as we have an 8yr old dd (I also have a 12yr old from previous relationship) and my decision has been based on many years of unhappiness and I just can't live like this anymore. My main stumbling blocks going forward (& believe me when I say I Absolutely know how much of a dreadful situation I have allowed myself to end up in) are that we are not married, my name is not on the mortgage of the house we live in and I have for the last 6years worked for his business (I haven't been to work since this happened 12days ago) I haven't paid into the mortgage but have put thousands into house repairs. I just don't know where to go next, how do you word the fact you are breaking up to an 8year old ? Is there any way of finding out how much maintenance payments would be ? We are going to stay living in the same house until I find somewhere to buy I have enough saved for a small deposit & I'll also have to find a new job. I'm not really sure what I'm asking for here, I'm just massively overwhelmed today and can't see the light at the end. Thanks for getting this far ....sorry for the incoherent ramble