Looking for advice

[Fidelis1980]

I will start by saying I'm a man and have come here for women's perspective.

Been with other half 11 years and have a DD who is 7. We have sex once a week which is great. The thing is whenever I go to touch my other half down there she says it tickles and squirms around laughing. This makes me feel rubbish . I have tried to be more firm but she says it hurts. It's like she doesn't want me touching her there.

Now I don't think she is cheating. Although she has started shaving down there ( something not done for a while) any ideas on what's going on? Thanks for listening

been together 11 years. not changed hairstyle doesn't wear make up and legs are not always shaved. there is a lot of love and hugs that has never changed. like I keep saying it is only when I first touch her there once it is there it is fine.

Nothing else has changed apart from pubes are slightly shorter. the ticklish thing has been for a year-18 months not all the time though. her boobs have been sensitive since a accident years ago.

can I ask why you smell cheating is it just the shaving thing?

If her ticklishness is new, then I suspect deeper problems. Maybe it's head turned by someone else, or maybe resentment or unresolved issues with you.

it could simply because of the showering just before - it dries out the skin and makes it more sensitive for about 20-30min, and with age skin gets drier. Ask her to try using a bit of lubricant before you start touching. Or let her start touching herself and until she 'gets going' a bit.

I have tried asking her to touch her self but she just says she want me to do it. I am so confused

its like she thinks if she does it herself it will offend me or something (it wont in fact it would be a turn on)

I cant see it be anyone else as she doesn't have time for an affair. I work evenings but our daughter is home then as I start work at school kick out and am back 20-30 mins after DD goes bed.

I must stress that I really don't think shes a cheat. She knows it would destroy DD and DD would hate her if she did.

Did I read that correctly? She grooms her pubic hair but has the legs of a sasquatch?

Look...tell her to bloody well finger herself if all she can do is squirm with displeasure whilst giving you no direction whatsoever. Blimey, even I'm tired of this woman and I don't even know her

Hopefully noclueses you are right and its just the shower thing. I don't see how she could resent me , I do cleaning, hovering, washingup,cooking, I make the bed,leave toilet seat down,walk daughter to school,work etc ect

no loveandhate she doesn't have sasquatch legs just doesn't shave them all the time.

OP, you're too much like a woman. Stop doing all those emasculating chores and tell her to damned well draw you a map or she can sling her hook.

I don't do them all the time lol. And I don't need a map once I am touching her there it is great and she enjoys it . its just the first few moments (like seconds) of touch.

I would be suspicious I'm afraid. I've been married twice and twice I've noticed a change in grooming habits. There was a reason for this, both times.

Tickly breasts and tickly undercarriage ? Laughing and squirming while you touch her intimately, and this is after all the fuss with showering. She doesn't sound very turned on or very into what's happening.

but the breast thing has been since an accident (nerve damage) my be shes not turned on in the mind but her body is as she gets very wet down there.

knowone seems to be listening that it just the first few touches where she squirms. Almost like the anticipation is too much.

the grooming thing like I have said is she always keeps it neat

Listen guys you have give me a lot to think about. I will come back and post once I find out whats going on. Could a MOD or admin please remove this thread as DW does come on here and she will know its about her

Let's get this straight

You know your wife uses MN and you have so far told us in recognisable detail 1) her sexual likes and dislikes 2) intimate details about her breasts 3) her pubic grooming habits and 4) that you don't trust her not to cheat

Fabulous

Well I have changed some details.

I trust her not to cheat I am just interested in the opinions of other women on here.

I was really after to know if any other women had ticklish vaginas .

Yep, I think your wife needs to know that too

You posted this thread because every time you have sex, there are a few seconds where your wife gasps and giggles before tickly turns into sexy?

Fucks sake

" I was really after to know if any other women had ticklish vaginas"

You're on the wrong website then

Excuse me while I roll about laughing.

So sorry, but I have had a giggle on this thread too. But, to be serious, I don't think you have anything to worry about OP. You're having regular sex. She's a bit sensitive for the first few minutes....so what? I do find the "having to shower first" thing just stupid. What if you have sex first thing in the morning? I couldn't care less about showering first. I actually find my DH "male smell" quite lovely. More than if he had freshly showered actually.

I'm sure your right. Thing is because of our work hours and DD sex tends to be planned for when DD is at school.thus it's nice that she wants to be clean for me.

Sorry some posters have felt it appropriate to give you a hard time op.

She sounds a bit hung up/tense about sex - or the thought of sex. When I am tense I get ticklish. Plus the showering every time sounds a bit hung up tbh. Sounds like she feels some kind of performance anxiety or something? Plus attending to her lady garden before her legs is not the usual way round imo - we usually (imo) attend to what is usually on show, or could be on show. To the world, that is.

Sex doesn't have to be perfect every time does it? It's not a performance. Perhaps before you touch her you could say 'can I touch you there now, are you ready?' You do talk to each other during the act I hope?

If you want to get this thread deleted for fear she will recognise it, click 'report' (bottom right 3 dots on mobile site, drop down menu) and ask for it to be deleted bcs tmi.

anks springydaffs . She doesn't do her legs much as they are not always on show. It funny coz I started this thread because Wednesday just gone this happend. She has just started her period so it ties into what she said about trimming it shorter around that time. Also ties in with what another poster said about it being more sensitive around that time.

If she doesn't always use tampons, then towels + pubes is a pretty grim combination so I get that!

The ticklish thing, try using lube. I always do and without it, there's a certain amount of friction that can be uncomfortable to start with.

My DP knows that if he starts without it I won't enjoy it as much, so while it does take the spontaneity out of it a bit it's necessary. We can be messing around on the sofa, but when it looks like getting serious it's interrupted by a quick dash upstairs to fetch lube, meanwhile I nip to the loo as I always have a wee first so I can properly relax, so then a mini wash too. He's upstairs getting the lube and thinks he'd better give it a rinse under the tap too and before we know it our spontaneous session is delayed by 10 minutes. But it's sooo much better!