Is it ever ok to tell your DP that you....

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Can't STAND a member of their family?

DP's nephew is only 10 but has a terrible terrible attitude.

Slaps and calls his mother a bitch, speaks quite nastily to me. Speaks in a language I dont understand and then laughs at me.

The list is ENDLESS and I can not cope with their company and quite frankly, don't want him in my house.

I think it is fine to do.

What does he think of his nephew?

He says he is hard work but does make excuses for him.

How do you feel about this boys mother?
It is after all down to her parenting that she now has an objectionable child.
I think it's quite odd to feel antipathy towards a child.

It's ok not to like people and for you both to have differing opinions. I don't know what the issue is here?

im sure your dp already knows

I think you need to speak to your DP.

Don't speak badly about his nephew, you want to be neutral and honest and state why you won't have that behaviour in your house.

Either DP calls his nephew on it or you don't have to see it.

I would be fuming if my DN called her mum those sort of things, I'm surprised that he excuses rather then tells his sister it's not on.