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wishitwasntlikethis · 04/12/2006 21:14

dh has a problem controlling his anger and has agreed to see a counsellor about it. tonight we started talking about it and he doesn't seem to take it seriously that i am scared of him. i know he doesn't mean to frightend me, he looses control - he's not generally malicious or controlling. we got a bit annoyed with eachother so i went upstairs, he came to to see me and i suggested he went to watch tv for a while as i know he needs some time on his own in the evening. he got angry and said "i'm being treated like a dog, woof" and stomped off - i was trying to suggest something to help calm him down

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tc58 · 04/12/2006 21:37

is he physically violent?

Rhubarb · 04/12/2006 21:38

But he has acknowleged that he has a problem by offering to see a counsellor. Has he booked an appointment yet?

Perhaps he finds it hard to deal with that you can be scared of him, perhaps to admit that is admitting that he is a bully and he himself is frightened of that.

Support him in his counselling. Try not to nag him about his anger or make him feel defensive. He is taking steps to change it, so just see how that goes.

wishitwasntlikethis · 05/12/2006 08:27

yes he has appt on weds. he and i have both been physically violent in the past , but hopefully that is over. he shouts, rants and swears and says dreadful things now rather than breaking things

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wishitwasntlikethis · 05/12/2006 13:12

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