Is he lying ?

[Em4891]

Hi all,
I have had to now resort to getting some advice as my oh has called me fxxxing mental ! Over this matter.
Which has made me even more suspicious .
Basically yesterday evening my oh went to work and I thought I would grab an early night . I went to his side of the bed only to find a scrunched up piece of tissue , I picked it up only to realize it was wet and covered in lets just say man fluid and was on my hand ??
I messaged my husband and asked why did he have to leave it on floor for myself to find ?
He then responded very aggressively to my text saying 1. I was fxxxking mental 2. He was at work now and couldn't be doing with my drama 3. Tried saying it was phelghm
All of his things have made me think why if he lying to me as I know perfectly well what was on that tissue .
He is always on his phone and constantly takes it everywhere .
Please offer any advice as I feel there is something he is hiding from me or am I being silly

The tissue doesn't really matter does it?

It's all the other things there that do.

I wouldn't message at work purely because it's meant to be professional but don't feel silly for the other things.

I must admit, I'd probably react in a grumpy manner if my DP challenged me at work like that. I got rid of my bin a few weeks ago in the bedroom and haven't picked up a fresh one yet. Several times, I have left a cotton bud on the side after tidying up my mascara that I'm in too much of a rush to pick up (I leave at 7am). DP would never go mad at me for it, nor me him. He wiped his brow at the weekend with tissue and put it at the side of the bed and forgot to move it. I haven't even mentioned it to him.

Whether it was willy juice in the tissue or not doesn't make it any more or any less of an issue, for me.

So are you saying he was wanking off during 'phone sex' or something? Yucky, but still not something I'd call him on at work.

Honestly, this is one of the reasons that infidelity is a deal breaker for me. Once trust is broken there's just no going back and I'd never choose to live my life in a constant state of suspicion. It's soul destroying for both parties.

OP, I think you need to think very hard about whether or not you want to stay with him.