I just feel 'meh' about it

[sparklesnpearls]

Hi, met a guy online dating 5 months ago. I initially finished it after couple of dates as he was a bit dull and I just wasn't excited about meeting him.

Anyway we kept in touch by the occasional friendly text n then he asked me out again and so because nobody else was in the pic I agreed.

Anyway, we been seeing each other quite a lot, staying over etc and the sex is ok but not earth shattering but the problem is he irritates me in little ways and just find myself wondering 'is this it?'. I'm very fond of him, have same values in life but I always seem to want more but I keep thinking as I'm 43 I should be thankful I've met a decent man who clearly cares for me very much.

Your choice, you can hurt him a little now it you can put it off so it'll hurt more in the future.

I'm 43 and I met someone nice. I'd have happily stayed on my own rather than 'settled' I'd end it as soon as possible as if he has sensed something its a horrible position to be in (for both of you)

The spark is either there or it isn't. If he doesn't make you laugh then you will always feel 'meh' especially if he irritates you now.

Keep looking - the right person is out there.

No relationship is infinitely better than a bad relationship. If you haven't worked that out yet then you should probably be single a while longer. I can't for the life of me work out why you would continue to date someone you feel lukewarm about. Life is too short and your self respect too important.

Settling for someone is pretty despicable behaviour, IMO.

End it and let him find someone who doesn't find him dull.

So what if your friends and family like him. They can do. It doesn't mean you have to date him though

You're being pretty cruel and selfish to continue it.

Thanks everyone, yes I agree it's not fair to continue any longer....think I do need to be single and work out what I do want.

Thanks again everyone who took time to post, it's helped a lot

if there is no spark don't go there.
you will end up in a relationship where there is no chemistry and you are constantly fighting for his attention. It's not worth it.