'Relationships' has made me realise what a bad realtionship im in...

[PeppasNanna]

I posted yesterday asking if people celebrate informal anniversaries, if they are not married.

Then some brought up 5 Language's of Love. I had never come across this theory.

I knew our relationship wasn't all that but now I'm really questioning why I'm with dp.

Its like I've suddenly realised what others could see. Its literally like, the scales have fallen from my eyes.

I don't know if anyone will understand what im describing but i almost wish I hadn't posted the thread yesterday & could just carry on as I was...what now?

"Get that fixed if nothing else!"

Actually if you'll forgive me being blunt, OP, I think the most pressing thing to sort is contraception. You say your youngest was a surprise. If I was in your situation I'd want to make completely sure there'd be no more surprises. If you do decide to go back to work and/or leave him, it will be so much harder with another baby on the way.

Actually, what kind of contraception are you using, or were you using at the time?

When someone posted about the number of children and the recent baby, I thought at the time that sometimes men do keep women pregnant to keep them dependent on them. Could this be a possibility?

Maybe it's just not the right time for you to leave. You are very vulnerable financially and you say it would be difficult to find work. Can you make the best of things until your youngest is in school? Start making plans for how to become more independent so that one day you can end the relationship and be happy.