Have name changed for this as dp knows my regular username.
Said dp is really getting on my nerves. I love him but wish he'd grow up and sort himself out.
He has a medical condition which requires him to catheter himself once a week or when it's under controlled once a fortnight or even less. The thing is, since we moved to our flat 6months ago hes not cathetered at all, problems are starting to surface; infections, premature ejaculation, unable to pee or peeling more frequently etc. He complains about these problems but does nothing about it, its starting to effect his work and he won't even tell his boss why. He says he doesn't like the catheters he has but won't phone his consultant to sort it out.
He has an annoying itch that he gets in the roof of his mouth which he itches loudly with his tongue - gross as well as annoying. It gets better with antihistamines which suggests an allergy to something but refuses to sort it. It keeps me awake at night ffs.
He's decided he's lactose intolerant, of course won't go to the doctor about it. Has cut all lactose out of his diet and says he feels better since doing so (fine, if he feels better I'm really happy for him). He said he wouldn't stop me eating or drinking lactose, but then moans when I have a chocolate bar or put milk in my tea. It's restricting my diet because all his favourite foods seem to contain lactose and he doesn't want to be "tempted" if I eat separately to him, it's fucking annoying. He's now decided that he must buy some tablets off Amazon that cost £65 for 10 tablets (£6.50 per tablet seriously??) so once a week he can have his favourite foods as these tablets help him digest lactose apparently. I suggested going to the doctor and seeing if theyre available on nhs so we're only paying £8 or whatever but apparently he doesn't have time (he works 3 days a week ffs how does he not have time?)
We have an almost 4month old baby together and he complains she doesn't like him - he refuses to change her nappy, moans when I ask him to give her one bottle a day so I can shower, won't play with her and passes her to me if he's cuddling her and she cries. Yet is happy to show her off to work collegues and happy to take praise for how brilliant she is.
He refuses to talk to his parents at the drop of a hat and cancels plans with them at the last minute even when theyve cancelled they're own plans to see him and their gd. They're nice people if occassionally misguided, and often have no idea what theyve done wrong when he drops them for awhile. Theyre brilliant with DD and whenever theyve looked after her alone they stick to my rules and routine etc. They're good gps. I continue to see and spend time with them whenever he drops them because I don't want DD to forget them - of course this annoys dp but he can never give me a reason why he's dropped them other than "they're annoying" (aren't all parents? My dm annoys the hell out of me at times).
He will come in from work and just want to "sit for awhile" which generally means he'll spend 2-4 hours playing computer games and complaining if I ask him to do simple tasks for DD (see above point about bonding) or moans he never gets freetime - well what did he expect with a baby/job/house?
I do love this man, and he is brilliant mostly. I know he'd be great with DD if he just gave it time. And also went to the doctor about his medical issues. I do sometimes feel he might be jealous, I have several medical conditions which I control but the HV and doctors always ask how I'm managing with those, and are quick to offer support if I feel I need it. Maybe he wants a bit of that.