Termination - a long time ago

[PiazzaDelPoppolo]

Sorry not sure what thread to put this in....had a termination ten years ago feel like it's still haunting me. I want to move on. Can anyone relate to this? Of suggest something other than counselling from NHS?

I don't know but didn't want to read and run
I have had counselling but feel mine will always be with me

So sorry for your pain.

There's an organisation Rachel's Vineyard tel 0800 059 9879
Rachelsvineyard.co.uk who offer counselling and weekend retreats with other women also in emotional pain post abortion.

You are not alone, wishing you peace.

Me too. I would describe it as a life sentence. I don't feel like I deserve the dc I have

Thank you

I had a termination in 1981 .i did not want it but had no support what so ever either way. felt I was pressured into it .
I have never forgiven myself nor the persons involved. my ex husband and mother who both nagged me into it. I do not take away the responsibility on my part .I wanted the baby but had no money no where to live. I had got clothes and nappies for the baby but they both wore me down
I have been on my knees begging for forgiveness many times.
It gets easier in a way but is always there

Me too.. It never leaves you..
I find myself thinking about it almost every other/day.

No help atal but just wanted to let you know you're not alone

Another one to let you know you aren't alone

It's been 16 years since I had mine and I still think about it all the time. It's only been over the last 1-2 years that I've been able to talk about it without crying.

Would it help to talk to us about it? The situation in which it occurred? Why you find it so hard to emotionally cope with?

As a bit of balance, I had a termination in 86 and can say that I rarely think of it now. I had no support, doubt anyone in my family know about it but I had good reason to do it.

For a couple of years I did think about it, but I always made a point of imagining what life for both if us would have been... it would have been awful, unsupported and probably homeless for a long time.

I don't dwell on it any more, it does not haunt me. It was the right thing to do and that is all you need to remember.

I hope you find your own way of living with it, forgiving yourself and not demanding you constantly have to apologise for it.

to everyone struggling with the decision.