Not feeling as strong today

[jennilou2]

As some of you are aware I recently kicked my ex fiancé out for basically being a cheat and a liar. I've been really positive right up until today he took the final bit of his stuff. I felt relief but now it's sunk in and I'm trying so hard to fight my emotions my heart says I miss him my head says what do you actually miss, I'm thinking it could be the company side of things because he was a dick. It's helping just writing this if that makes sense or am I loosing the plot?

If it helps, write away! Sending you

Its all part of the grieving process so be kind to yourself. Don't weaken though! He was a liar and a cheat and nothing will have changed on that score. You're just feeling a bit down and lonely. Fill your time with things you enjoy and dismiss thoughts of him from your mind. I'm a great believer in fake it until you make it so even if you don't feel it, act positive, be happy.

Just focus on what you need to do to get through it.
Always focus on the positive. He showed you his true colours before you married him thank God, for example.

Focus on the benefit of this situation. What has it taught you about yourself and others for example. Even in horrible situations there is a seed of benefit. Look for it and focus on it.

You have a need for company at the moment. Either go out and get some or use the time to build the strength to be comfortable with your own company. Pamper yourself and use the time to strive for what you really want.

I'm so sorry this has happened to you but use this experience to your benefit xxx

You'll likely have a few rough moments but they'll start to be outbalanced by the good ones so come on here if you have a wobble.

How are the kids this morning?

Just to reinforce what others have said; I threw my H out earlier this year, not for cheating but for general shit behaviour.

I had a couple of months of feeling completely elated and almost high on freedom, followed by a massive crash and since then it has been up and down but increasingly more ups than downs.

The end of a long term relationship is similar to a bereavement and it's a grieving process. It won't be linear and it won't follow a pattern: you will feel like death some days, on top of the world others and you will get triggered by random and apparently unimportant things.

Go with it, let it ride over you and be kind to yourself. But don't confuse this with having made a mistake. You have done the right thing and you need to hold onto that.

Thank you all for your lovely messages, been keeping myself busy today cleaning, rearranging my house , playing with my kids making them stay happy. I sent him a message saying not to forget to pay some money back he owes me for rent etc I've got a feeling he won't give it to me though.