I'm feeling so stressed out at the moment, I posted last night about the health problems in the family, well this morning a row erupted between my mum and my grandma, apparantly my mum phoned my grandma to ask how my uncle was and my grandma was very 'off' with her and snappy, my mum then got pissed off with her and more or less hung up on her.
Completely unaware of this I phoned my mum to chat this morning and she started crying down the phone saying she was sick of being the black sheep of the family, everyone always leaves her out, she doesn't want to bother with any of the family anymore etc etc... I really cannot be doing with all this right now.
I know it's not very nice to be snapped at etc but she does it to other people, she snapped at me this morning for instance on the phone, her and my grandma are very alike, they just don't realise it.
So now if I go and see my uncle on my own my mum is going to start saying I'm leaving her out too, she's refusing to go when the others are there and its very awkward for me to get to the hospital as the kids are at school and the visiting time is 2-8pm, I can't go on a night as I have nobody for the kids and I can't go in an afternoon as I wouldn't get back to school in time.
My mum is saying "put them in kids club and we'll go together" but it would cost me a fortune to put them in kids club not to mention the bus fares to and from the hospital (2 buses each way) and I'm as skint as everyone else at this time of year.
I don't want to upset my mum but I feel like I'm expected to do whatever will keep everyone else happy all the time. It would be easy for me to go to the hospital next weekend as the kids are at their dads but my mum is saying she cant wait that long.
Not only this but when my uncle comes out of hospital he will need care from all the family so now my mum is saying she's worried that something will happen to him whilst she's looking after him and she can't be doing with getting the blame and she can't be putting up with people who will inevitably "get on their high horse" etc etc... he isnt even home yet and she's creating these situations before anything has even happened.
It's just a really bad time right now and its being made worse by petty bickering.