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Original poster

I'm just sick of it!!!

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Theoldcauliflower · 14/10/2015 22:33

Just sick of feeling so unwanted, I try to have sex it's made into a joke I feel like I want to end it even though everything else is ok!
He comes to me for a quickie sat or sun morning sometimes not even that, I'm 33 and it's over in a miniute! I love him , I've posted before sick of crying about it, he can't see the problem and won't talk about it, don't know what to do Sad

OP posts:
Pigzoom · 14/10/2015 22:36

Do you have dCs ?

Inexperiencedchick · 14/10/2015 22:37
Flowers
Original poster
Theoldcauliflower · 14/10/2015 22:39

Yes have dc, but it's just getting so silly, I would never cheat and don't want to split but just have no idea where to go from here

OP posts:
PurplePoppy17 · 14/10/2015 22:47

You could always try introducing toys or foreplay ect, worth a try. You need to try and sit him down for a talk, there's no point letting it upset you and stress you out as that will just bigger the issue. Tell him straight how you feel. Honestly is the best policy Smile good luck!!

Original poster
Theoldcauliflower · 14/10/2015 22:51

He won't have toys wouldn't like me having one, he knows what's going on he's not daft! Thanks for the replies!

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AnyFucker · 14/10/2015 22:53

I cannot make head nor tail of either the op or any of the replies

Are you lot squiffy or has someone slipped some gin in my cocoa ?

Original poster
Theoldcauliflower · 14/10/2015 22:57

No I'm not squiffy AF

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PreemptiveSalvageEngineer · 14/10/2015 23:42

Cocoa and gin? Yeuch.

Cocoa and rum: now that's the stuff. HTH, AF Grin

spectacularly misses point

CupboardOfBacon · 14/10/2015 23:49

I am guessing from what I can work out from your op that sex is only on his terms and is over very quickly? Does he do anything to help you enjoy yourself? Or is this a very onesided situation?

cozietoesie · 15/10/2015 00:00

You're badly upset about something and he won't even talk about it? (And actually carries on in his current way and - from what you suggest in your OP - laughs at you?) It doesn't sound to me as if everything is quite so hunky-dory as you suggest.

gatewalker · 15/10/2015 09:15

I would leave him, cauliflower. No two ways about it.

I can hear and feel the pain and grief and desperation in your words, and from the very little you've written, he is not going to change. In the meantime, you are opening yourself to a loveless, and at best utterly dismissive and selfish (sexual) relationship. I mean, how dare he be unhappy with you having toys?! That says it all there. That, and coming on over for a quickie.

You deserve more - far more - than this.

Jan45 · 15/10/2015 16:23

Eugh yuck, I couldn't spend my time never mind my body with such a selfish inconsiderate man, you are wasting your life.

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