finally leaving!

[Chickenfillets]

I posted on here about a year ago asking for advice on what to do about my partner, stupidly I took nobody's advice and stayed with him, well actually I had no choice because I would of been homeless. I was in early pregnancy at the time an had been with this fool for about a year. He takes drugs, goes out all the time and is basically a prick. Anyway he promised he would quit the drugs when I got pregnant, never happened, he said he would quit when baby was born, never happened. My ds is 5 month and since being 3 week old prickface has been out every weekend doing cocaine, smoking weed and drinking. I live with him and his mum and have been tying my hardest to get away for months and month but iv had nowhere to go. It's hell living with him, he screams and swears at me infront of our ds, has a really bad temper and just has no respect, he smokes a lot of weed, that much that he didn't wake up to ds coughing an choking the other night. claims he's a good dad but hardly spends time with ds. Anyway iv finally saved enough money and have applied for my house in a complete different town to prickface. I'm so excited and cannot wait to get away! But now what do I do about him having contact with ds? He says he wants him weekends, but how am I meant to trust him? For all I know he will just leave ds with his nan and he will go out on the piss and do drugs. I'd never want to stop him from seeing his son But my child's safety comes first. Why should I feel like the bad person for putting my son first

Hi Chicken, firstly well done for getting out, sounds like you're doing the right thing for you and your DS. As far as contact with his dad is concerned in your circumstances I would probably go for supervised contact at a contact centre in the interests of DS's safety if there's drugs involved. Not entirely sure how you go about organising that, I think either you have to deny contact altogether and he has to apply to court for contact and you then get the opportunity to put forward your concerns so the court orders supervised contact or you might be able to apply directly to court yourself, am sure other posters will be along with more experience in these matters or possibly Women's Aid or CAB might be able to advise you. I wouldn't feel comfortable with my child going into that environment either though so think you're right to be concerned, hope your move goes well and you get something sorted for DS