Been lied to. Split up.

[msunnymol]

Finished me two weeks ago saying just couldn't do it no more - wants to stay friends. I was suspicious there was more to it as it came very out of the blue but he denied it.

There has been a girl on the scene for a few months who has made it very clear she likes him but she is best friends with his best friends girlfriend and shes there a lot at parties and gatherings. I have never been. I know of her.

Yesterday she left a

So you're not together anymore, and haven't been for two weeks?

It's nothing to do with you. In the nicest way, you need to remove him from Facebook and Whatsapp and delete his number, and then move on. You can't stay friends with someone you have feelings for, and you'll just hurt yourself observing from the sidelines.

If they've known each other for a couple of months and she's now leaving hearts under his photos, it's probable that they like each other and they are flirting. He may well have left you to pursue things with her, or he may have left because he's realised that he feels something more for her and wants a relationship that involves that. He could just feel like being single and be flirting with lots of people.

It doesn't matter, though. You don't need to trust him, he's not yours to have any trust in. It doesn't matter why he's going home at 10am, he's not your responsibility anymore.

You can do nothing to make him come back or stop him moving on. You can stop him from playing God and hurting you by deleting and blocking him on everything.

Saying this kindly, who he is seeing is none of your business now. I would make an educated guess that there was overlap between you and her, this seems obvious to an outsider.

What you need to do is go complete non contact. Trying to stay "friends" doesn't work if one exP still has feelings for the other and is going to get hurt to see them moving on.

You need to accept he is probably keeping you sweet in case it doesn't work out with Miss Shiny And New.

Would you want to be second best ? Would you take him back if he asked ?

If you would, you need to find out why you would accept so little.

Delete him, block him and concentrate on rebuilding your own life, not playing Sad Little Miss Lonely on the outskirts of someone else's life. He will lose respect for you, and you will lose respect for yourself.

I just don't understand why he has denied it several times and called her fucking mental when theres so much there to say they are seeing each other. I was already struggling as it were (taking time off work) and this has completely knocked me.

I feel so broken.

Because he is a twat. You seriously think this guy was ever a good bet who calls women "mental" ?

What do you think he might say about you ?

Get him down off that pedestal. No man is worth this.

You are right. He has treat me appalling but I cannot help but miss him immensely. He said I wasn't being normal yesterday by being so concerned but i feel i deserve to know the truth. I guess i won't know it until a few months/weeks down the line when he is playing happy families with her.

He said that because anything else would have led to more questions from you, it was easier to make you think she was mad than for you to end up seeing something else was going on. It's really hard to deal with, I know that, but as a PP has said, delete and block, then find someone who cares for you.

If you block him, you won't have to witness it.

Tell him you don't want him to contact you any more, for any reason.

He must think he has a diamond encrusted cock. I bet he slags you off mightily to this other girl.

Come on love, get your Big Girl Pants on and drop kick this dickhead out of your life.

If you want a dickhead in your life, there are loads of them out there. They are ten a penny.

There are also decent men who wouldn't be so nasty as to dangle you on a string like this and then tell you that you are "not normal" when you express distress at his cruelty.

he maintains nothing is going on and we had a bit of a more adult chat about things. i still cant help feeling a bit suspicious but i have to believe him and move on. my friend is taking me out for a few drinks on friday and doing my hair and make up for me!

Calling her fucken mental is usually a good sign he thinks the opposite of her.

Move on! Plenty more fish

I was aware of her before though and she did act a bit mental around him, i know her a long time ago from school days and i know she was a bit strange. why would he call her that to me now if he knows i could go and tell her?

i need to stop worrying about it but its hard, its only been just oveer 2 weeks.

It's just none of your business who is leaving hearts on his fb page, sorry to be harsh when you're struggling.
You'll struggle less when you block him and stop asking him.

You're not with him anymore so none of that matters.

Block him from all social media.

If you find your various conversations replaying in your head then write it all down just to get it out of your head - this is not for anyone else to see!

Forgot him and move on.

Hmmmmm.
Actually, it's probably no bad thing that he's chasing Facebook heart girl.
Because that may mean he's not back chasing his fiancée that he cheated on with you - she doesn't deserve that.

Block him on Facebook.
Go get some counselling.