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Stupid to think I'm left on the shelf?

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RivieraKid · 11/10/2015 23:09

For a little backstory, I am an incredibly awkward person. I have several diagnosed mental health issues which I am working on in therapy, but no matter how friendly and open I am I never seem to attract people.

I had to chase my last OH (the depressed fiance who split up with me over FB), and in fact, after I hit 24 it always seemed to be me doing the chasing (didn't help that I became disabled at this time, although I've recovered a lot of mobility since). I'm about to hit my 30th and I know it's probably ridiculous, but I'm wondering if I'll ever find someone.

I know that not being able to walk like most people doesn't help, and neither does having a mental illness, I guess I'm resigning myself to being alone forever because of those things (the alternative being that I'm fundamentally unlovable) and it makes me die inside.

Sorry for the shelf-pity (see what I did there), but I've just been rejected again and wondering if I can cope with a lifetime of being alone.

OP posts:
spudlike1 · 11/10/2015 23:19

I have a very good friend who I've known for twenty + years severely disabled (employs permanent assistants ) has been in a relationship with an able bodied man for 6 years now he's committed they are in love .. Sought relationships through online forums (look them up )

Seek out sympathetic minds

Never give up
You are a lovable person ..everyone is ..and so are you

RivieraKid · 11/10/2015 23:29

Thank, it just feels all the men my age are after a younger model (sans problems) and obviously I'm invisible to the younger men. I'm described as 'sweet, funny and intelligent' but it's not enough somehow.

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Sallyhasleftthebuilding · 11/10/2015 23:33

My first thought was stop chasing!! Second your type isnt working, try out a few others ...
I then thought you`re young free and single, you must have lots to offer and somewhere out there is someone in the same boat waiting for you!
Change tact, mix it up, be open about who you are and what you want ..

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