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Advice re stbxh , new gf and ds

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ConfusedNoMore · 11/10/2015 22:30

Split with ex over a year ago. He's been an utter bastard frankly. Several women before/since split. He's been seeing his current gf for around 2 months afaik.

I am not one to plaster DS on social media. Something ex and i used to agree on, but then he changed.

Ex hasn't told me directly about new gf. Hints but says friends only, though she lives her life via fb it seems. Totally public profiles. I don't care other than he is using contact with DS to basically impress her as doting dad, when this is far from truth.

Last week, he was late bringing reception age DS home after midweek contact. DS was soaked when did get back. Ex said he'd been to play with ds's new friend. This is his gfs daughter.

Anyway, apart from to reassure DS its OK and that he doesn't need to keep secrets as mummy knows all this and its fine....I now see the new gf has photo of DS and her child as her fb profile PiC.

I don't like this. I don't want DS on fb. Ex is twat and would enjoy any dis comfort he causes me.

Fb seems to only give option to block or ask gf to take PiC down.

I don't know what to do. I want to keep dignity but don't want gf to carry on doing this. My DS us nothing to do with her. She's been seeing ex 2 months tops.

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TheStoic · 12/10/2015 12:41

Honestly, I wouldn't say a word. They will lose interest quickly and move on to something else.

As you say, your ex would enjoy knowing he has pissed you off. So don't let him know. Just block them both, and forget about FB.

Nevergoingtolearn · 12/10/2015 12:56

Why were you looking at her profile?

I wouldn't say anything, as stated above 'they will only get off on the fact they have pissed you off' ,my ex puts photos of my dd's on his FB profile, I don't really like it but I don't say anything after all I have been known to put photos of them on my profile so why shouldn't he?

ConfusedNoMore · 12/10/2015 17:09

Thanks both. I think you're right. I just have to swallow it. Never going...good question. Somebody told me about her profile being completely public. I need to stop looking. It only upsets me. I guess I wanted to see if she was posting about me or DS. She's done both now.

I need to pretend fb doesn't exist. I'm not a fan. I am admin for work related page that's all.

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