Struggling to orgasm - is it the pill or the new partner?

[Quatrefoil]

On the one hand I suspect it's the POP (mini-pill) I've just begun taking because loss of libido is listed as a side effect, and I am finding it harder to reach orgasm even when masturbating alone. But, I am still interested in sex, feel aroused and become wet, so does that really count as loss of libido? Everything feels right except Iack of sensation in my clitoris.

The other possible factor is that I have a new sexual partner (my last one was long term - over 20 years) and we are still in the discovery stages - just a few weeks in. Two things spring to mind in this regard - one is that I could just not feel relaxed enough (although I really do feel very aroused, loving the PIV sex but not getting clitorally aroused). The other is that maybe he doesn't know me well enough - how to touch me, or how long for. My last partner knew me so well I never had to worry about it. But even if new partner is touching me how I like it (he is willing to be guided and does try to please me) I still just don't really feel the sensation much - nothing like I know I can / have in the past.

Is it me? The pill? The new man? Help!

New man deffo. You're used to another, so it will take time

Possibly the pill, if it also happens while you are solo.

Did/have you done a lot of masturbation leading up to this new relationship? Using toys for a sustained amount of time can lead to desensitisation.

Sex is less fun when I up my dose of caffeine and vitamin B. So even a slight lifestyle change or taking new vitamins can have an impact.

Sounds like the pill if you're struggling with the masturbation also.

From a male POV. Tell him what you want and how you want it done etc. He may not be that adventurous or experienced even!. It sometimes takes a bit of time to fully adjust to someone new. Different stokes for differing folks perhaps?.

In my experience most any hormonal contraception reduces libido, never seems to enhance it.

The pill.