Basically DH and I started life together as friends. We met through work and it took us over two years to get together with both of us having relationships/flings in the meantime.
However we finally admitted feelings for one another and got together. All was good and we had some good times.
Fast forward 16 years and we are
Married with a child.
We are still the best of friends, have no major arguments and he is a good dad and does his share around the house. He supports me in what i do and we are financial equals despite him Working longer hours and in a better paid role. He is kind, considerate and helpful and we can still chat like we did when we started out.
The one problem is the lack of intimacy in our relationship. We have never been at it like
Rabbits except for maybe the first couple of months and even then I wouldn't use Rabbits as a good example!
Over the years it has declined and I would say is now down to less than 5/6 times a year.
We had a chat about this and he says he just hasn't got a high libido and rarely fancies it. Deep down I got the feeling he doesn't really fancy me and so I asked him. His answer was that he finds me
Attractive but said he doesn't think we have great sexual chemistry together! Clearly this was upsetting but I asked him to be totally honest and so he was!
I have gone along with things in the past without making a big deal of it as in general I have been happy with my life and I love my family and love him.
It's just that as I am close to 40, I am starting to wonder it this is it for
Life. I suppose it has to be if I want to stay in the life I have.
Not sure what I am asking really. Perhaps wondering it there are other couples out there like this?