writing is on the wall.what happens next.

[whatisforteamum]

Having posted on here loads about my marriage things seem to be going from bad to worse.I have done all i can and tbh some of the strain is the whole job thing with him on early shifts and me on split shifts and dd working eves too.I just cant stand his bad moods and called a family meeting fri.He shouted at me on my b day and ds heard him.Sat he said i was like my F..ing mother in reference to the fact i like a tidy house (been a bit untidy with all at work).Last eve i was happy worked 930 am -1030.DD is away drove home for food and drink he went to bed without saying good night just because i said there was alot of bread there was a silly amount,Anyway i have looked bfore at rooms to rent and some have an age restriction.So my question is where did you move to ? I dont earn much and had no idea that some people only want younger pple.I am 49.The dds cant stand it ds stayed at a friends in the week and dd is saving up to move out.i had hoped he could change back and have even changed jobs recently.Help.

You would be pleasantly surprised at how many older 40 + owner occupiers there are who seek lodgers to help with their own housing costs. My friend does this and prefers an older lodger as they tend to be good company (similar life experiences ) and tend not to party as much as younger.
Disclaimer - I am fully aware that there are many youngsters who are quiet and responsible and older hell raisers.
Try gumtree. I think lodging would be better than a shared rental in your circumstances.

Are you renting your existing house? As I recall your H does not have a good relationship with your DS, so would you be taking him with you? If so that limits your options, but does mean you'd get child tax credit, workign tax credit and probably housing benefit as well.