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Partner left for another woman

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Porter88 · 10/10/2015 23:00

Hi all, im 27year mother of 2 that has recently found out im pregnant with #3, recently my partner of 8half years confessed to my best friend that he had been having an affair for the last 6months and that he loves the girl and wants to be with her.

All of this came out 4days after we found out I was pregnant with a baby that we were trying for. He took my pill off me and said let's try for a baby, I got pregnant straight away. We moved out of my parents into a rental a week (trying to save for our own home) before we found out #3 was coming.

I just don't understand how a man can let you get pregnant and move into a rental knowing that he was having an affair and then leaving his family for her. He rings everyday, pops in every second/third day. Still says he loves me and still looks at the kids and I as his family.

When he comes over it upsets me and i cant help but ball my eyes out everytime ,no matter how strong i try to be,it's only been 7weeks since all this happened. He gets all huggy and says he wants to come out of this as best friends. And when he leaves I just feel so depressed, confused,hurt,angry.

I know the best thing is to cut contact but he's making it hard by ringing everyday and turning up every other. I'm moving back into my parents next weekend because I can't afford to pay the 23grand debt I've been left in aswell as provide for 3 kids on my own.

I feel so abandoned and broken. Feel like the pain will never go away. Hiding away from the world, the only reason I get out of bed in the mornings is for the kids. How do you let go of someone that you loved so much? How can a man say he loves you but also love another woman? How can they both sleep at night knowing they have hurt so many people?

I don't understand how this girl thinks this is all going to work out for her, she said to me over fb that she loves him and they will work through this.he was literally living 2 lives,she claims she had no idea he had a family and that he was doing the family thing with her,when he told me he was away for work he was with her literally around the corner and would tell her the same thing when he was with me. He's also confessed that his new girl doesn't know that we talk and he turns up unannounced.

I'm so emotionally and mentally drained and feel so alone right now, even with all the support around me.

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MotiSen · 11/10/2015 02:46

Sounds like he's in a fantasy world and needs a dose of realism in the form of paying child support for the children he helped make. That ought to wake him up real fast. Your children don't deserve to live in poverty, and you don't deserve to have to support them on your own. IMO.

sarah661 · 11/10/2015 05:49

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Trooperslane · 11/10/2015 06:06

Sorry op, I can't add anything but just to let you know I've reported that stupid Sarah woman.

Mrsboathook · 11/10/2015 06:08

Sorry to hear you're going through this op. Have reported above post.

Savagebeauty · 11/10/2015 06:12

So have I.

HellKitty · 11/10/2015 06:29

I'm fed up with those emotional money grabbing vampires.

Porter, report your post and ask for it to be move to 'Relationships' you'll probably get more traffic and help there Thanks

DawnMumsnet · 11/10/2015 09:18

Hi, we're moving this thread over to our Relationships topic now.

Porter88, we hope you get plenty of good advice and support there. Flowers

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