Feeling lonely and bored

[Chairmanofthebored]

I'm feeling a bit sorry for myself today. I feel quite lonely in my marriage at times. Dh suffers with mh issues and is very up and down at the moment. His medication makes him feel tired in the evenings sometimes, he has just gone to bed and I'm sat here all alone. I have a few good friends but they are all busy with their own lives, so I don't really want to phone them just to moan.
I feel quite empty sometimes, like I'm just going through the motions iyswim. I sometimes feel like everyone I know has full lives with lots of friends and family, I can't even look on Facebook as it sends me into a depression to see how happy other peoples lives are when mine is so empty.
I was really looking forward to an evening with my dh and he just sat there tonight like a zombie, hardly sparkling company. Oh and we've not had sex for about a month!!
Thanks for reading if you've got this far, its quite cathartic to just write it down!

That doesn't sound much fun. I wouldn't worry about Facebook though, it's all about posting and boasting on there, and doesn't bear a lot of relation to what's really going on in people's real lives, away from the camera. Are you doing anything for yourself, any hobbies? Even one night out a week doing something you really enjoy or learning a new skill can be a really good focus and up your happy levels

Hi yippee, thanks for your reply. Hobbies wise, not a lot really! I started running a year ago but haven't bothered with it for a couple of weeks. Ditto my exercise class. The trouble is, I work evenings and one of the evenings im home, dh goes out. I know I should join a club or something but its hard to find something that fits in around kids/work/dh.
I do try to keep informed with politics, news etc. So at least I have something to chat about with colleagues so I don't sound like a complete loser. I am rather dull these days I fear. Not sure I've ever really been an interesting person though.
You are spot on about Facebook though. If comparison is the thief of joy, then Facebook is risky place to be!

I know when I'm feeling down that exercise really helps. Getting moving, especially outside, even just for a walk, makes you feel more balanced and clearer headed somehow. Get running again chairman and think of something you'd really like to do and start planning how to make it happen. It doesn't matter if you're dull as long as you're content!

Yes, I really must run tomorrow. I always feel better afterwards if only I can haul myself out there!

Nice run tomorrow, treat yourself to a long soak in the bath and buy yourself a new book or a magazine. Sounds like you need some pampering