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So bloody angry I could cry!

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lostremotecontrol · 08/10/2015 21:58

I've been supporting a partner with severe MH issues. We were in a relationship for 3 years, just friends now. Never lived together.

Just a few facts about him:
Anger management issues
Racist
Drunk
Forced me to have sex
Selfish
No affection EVER
'Cheated' via Facebook/texts

And a few facts about me:
Stood by him through everything
Took him to various appointments
Looked after his DC
Cooked
Cleaned
Put up with ranting
Bit my tongue permanently

I realise I was a doormat, know I needed to get out completely and was gradually easing myself out of the 'relationship.'

Sent me a text tonight saying he was drunk - surprise surprise - and we were over etc etc.

90% of me was relieved, 10% sad because of what we lost when things were good.

He's now sent me a text saying he wished I was more honest with him, we had no connection.

I am so bloody annoyed I feel like crying. How dare he!!! I did everything I possibly could. Really want to pick up the phone and tell him how unfair this is, but I know that's the wrong thing to do.

To be honest, I don't mind if no one replies this, I just feel so much better for having got it out of my system.

Thanks for reading.

x o x

OP posts:
Isetan · 09/10/2015 02:48

He's an arsehole of the highest order but your biggest problem wasn't and isn't him, it's you.

The injustice was his abuse and not his rejection of you, the very skewed way you viewed your relationship with this man is truly frightening. His MH and his kids was the permission/excuses you made to stay in a depressingly unhealthy relationship.

You were obviously getting something out of this relationship and you need to know what, so that you can address those issues. Please, please, please seek help before you appear on the radar of another abusive arsehole.

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