should I end it? unforgiveable

[jessica3692]

We have an 8 month baby. Unmarried. I'm just getting fed up now. We've been together 4 years and I'm realising lately that I don't think he is someone I want to spend the rest of my life with.

today was my dads funeral. I left partner with baby. He handled things fairly well when I got back I guess. But then this evening he came into the bedroom ans said "my lizard is dead because of you, because you didn't turn the heated light on." Lizard wasn't dead and wasn't my fault about the lights but still blamed it on me and called me a lazy cunt.It was a misunderstanding about the lights. I called him into living room to discuss this and said I was upset with how he handled situation and he said are you done? I got upset and said sometimes I felt like yes we're getting somewhere and then suddenly I feel like you don't give a shit. He said no I don't and walked out the room. I have finally accepted my dads death and now I'm crying over my parter too! When my dad was in hospital he helped out by taking days off work to look after our baby but when I got home one night after I said my goodbyes to my dad he barely looked me in the eye and offered no hug. I even hinted that he should but no such luck. Ended up crying on phone to friend. Feel like I have no emotional support from him which I think is crucial in a relationship.

We've always been relaxed, had fun together and mostly I'm happy. He's always been impossible to talk to though. He will never row with me or express himself. Just shuts off and neglects me emotionally. Can be nasty and make me feel like he does not give a shit about me. It's just to me the bad times tip me over the edge. And even days he comes home from work, can't speak for being too tired (he works no more than the average man and his job is no more tiring than an average job I.e not a doctor for example) and when he's tired there is literally no speaking to him. It's like this several times a week and it gets me down. Sometimes I just feel we're too different but I accept it but what's happened since my dads passing to me seems unforgivable. Like wow he really does not give a shit. Should I end it?

and if I do then I'm a single mother and I can't believe I feel like this 8 months into my baby's life :,(

Being on your own is better than being with someone who calls you a lazy cunt. Fact.

He is a horrible man. He picked a fight with you and called you a cunt on the day of your dad's funeral. I wouldn't do that to my worst enemy. I would cut them slack on the day of their dad's funeral even if my lizard had died. I'd know that father trumps lizard.

Adjusting to being a single parent is not easy but it is a better life than living with a selfish abusive man who doesn't value you. Value yourself.

Don't fear being on your own. I left a horrible man and there was kind of a flurry of organisational issues to sort out. Practicalities. Admin. Form-filling. It is a change but it's worth it.

Do it while baby still young. My youngest doesn't remember living with his father. It means he's no issues about it.

Im society sorry for your loss. He didn't do you a favour looking after your DC, that's the bare minimum you can expect from your dp on the day of your DF'sfuneral.

A decent man would be holding you while you talk about your Dad, he would rub your head or your feet, would have. Made your favourite meal or bought your favourite chocolate to try and make today as bearable as possible.You have to LTB. Being alone cannot possibly be worst than this.

Adjusting to being a single parent is not easy but it is a better life than living with a selfish abusive man who doesn't value you. Value yourself.

Roger that.
Single parent for the last 18 months since my daughter was 17 months old. Things are good

He accused you of killing his LIZARD on the day your FATHER died. Hmmm... sounds like he can't stand anyone apart from himself having needs. That doesn't bode well for the future.
LTB

He is very unpleasant.

He is showing you how he will continue to be to you and how he will eventually be to your DC when they grow up and annoy him over something.

So sorry about your father.