Online dating...what am I doing wrong??

[frecklesandfun]

Recently split up from long term relationship and decided to give POF a try. Been on it for 3 weeks and only had 3 guys message me. I've sent a few introductory messages and had a couple of slow chats that have basically fizzled out. I've got an upbeat profile with nice pics but no fish are biting.
I'm on the verge of giving up.
Has anyone got any tips...or do I just give up? My confidence is dwindling fast...

Without seeing your profile, it's hard to know if you're making any glaring errors there, but I would say that OD is a numbers game -- you are going to have to be a bit more active than sending "a few " messages. OD is tough, and it can easily make you feel down, so don't be hard on yourself. I'm aware it might be "outing " but can you give us an idea of what you put in your profile?

Know how you feel, i gave up on OD. The whole process got me down, I had sent a lot of messages with little response let alone positive replies asking to date.
I joined meetup and it is much better, actually talking face to face is huge.

Good luck

My first response is that if you've recently split from a long-term relationship, then it's too early to be on OD. I've found that it sometimes works that if you're in the wrong place at the wrong time, a (lack of) response will be reflect that.

*will reflect that

Thing is, you ask "what am I doing wrong?" Yet if your pics are nice and your profile is upbeat you aren't doing anything wrong.

Unless you live in a very underpopulated area?

Thanks for your replies.
gatewalker - good point to consider, but I'm ready I think. Although recently split from long term relationship, the last couple of years were miserable so I'm excited about the future.

Funnily enough, since I posted, I've actually started chatting to a guy who seems nice. It's a start at least...