Final hearing 7 year old with Cafcass

[Gladiator16]

New to the site but hope someone is able to offer some advice please.

Just to give you brief background
My husband and I split up 15 months ago due to DV.
I called police went to court and he was charged with battery . He actually pushed me too far and brought my son to witness the attack .
I needed hospital treatment and this alerted the staff to phone social services to protect our son.
Social services did 2 visits to the marital home and concluded that our son wasn't in any danger with me as I started divorce proceedings immediately .
My son wasn't allowed contact with his dad and has only been able to see him supervised in a contact centre fortnightly .
Basically my husband hates me !
He does everything possible to cause problems and thankfully the contact centre know this and document everything .
Cafcass said he was a risk 16 and he has been forced to attend a psychological assessment course and also a DV perpetrators course.
I am back in court this month as my husband who started proceedings wants indirect contact unsupervised . I have been in court 4 times so far !!

Cafcass are saying he still presents a medium risk which could be harmful to my relationship with our son . They believe his behaviour hadn't changed and the courses where only a means to him winning more contact with his son !
Do you think the cafcass report stands up in court as it does not read favourable to my husband at all .
I have attended contact and I have done everything possible not to show our son that there is a problem with me and his dad so his very happy
I feel my husband can't be trusted with our son as doesn't take responsibility for anything
I know his manipulative and even shows these traits in the contact centre ie drawing horrible pictures of me whilst colouring with our son .
He buys him extravagant gifts , although this week a new MP3 player loaded with violent foul rapping songs with racist and wife beating lyrics !!
I've had to report him again !
So that's my story
What's after contact centre ?
We have been visiting for over 12 months and my husbands behaviour has only got worse !
I'd be interested to hear from anyone in similar situation
Thank you

"Do you think the cafcass report stands up in court as it does not read favourable to my husband at all ."

Yes. The court appoints CAFCASS to provide an independent view on what is best for the child.

My lawyer said (similar situation) that the judge would need a good, legal reason to deviate from CAFCASS recommendations. Good luck!

Reasonstobecheerful thank you for your response
Cafcass have been so supportive with helping my son I just fear the courts !
I'm on a real low as I feel so under pressure financially to keep going to court and it's the same thing again and again !
I wanted a communication book at contact centre to try and at least make my husband aware of DS needs
He declined that too
Thank god I have the best Cafcass worker !!

Melisma Are you at final hearing ?

I have no doubt that the Cafcass recommendation will "stand up" in court and I cannot imagine that your h will be granted anything other than supervised contact with your ds, but what does the 'indirect contact' you've said he's asking for consist of?

Is he proposing to send cards/gifts/letters on Christmas/birthdays and other occasions to a third party who will pass them on to ds without your knowledge ?

When is the court hearing? It's entirely understandable that you feel low, but there'll be no shortage of hands for you to hold here while rallying yourself for the last hurdle. Do you have a rl friend to accompany you?

How are the divorce proceedings going? Will you soon be in position to refer to the violent twunt your 'ex'?

as your ex

Thank you for replying the indirect contact was letters but my husband sent letters that were upsetting to my son . Saying things like I miss you so much and ask mummy if I can come back etc!
Cafcass felt they were damaging as my DS can read really well
As for gifts DS gets useless gifts is toys toys and more toys !!
The court hearing is at end of month ! However I have financial hearing final stage 4 days earlier !
This is equally as horrific as I sold family home and my DH said I sold it too cheap ,
I didn't I sold it for above its value.
So I'm battling from every angle .
His since decided the house is worth 75 k more and is deliberately keeping me in house I can't afford.
I pay half mortgage all the bills and 42 k worth of debt on credit cards all legal bills may I add.
I'm sinking in debt live in huge house and have empty fridge and a 7 year old to keep happy.
I should be at first stage of divorce in 4 weeks as didn't have to do mediation due to DV conviction
I'm so unhappy !

My husband wants contact away from contact centre with him seeing our son at his mothers house
Cafcass are saying he is too much of a risk to agree to this

I'm sorry I'm going on and on
I also asked Cafcass to support me In a name change for my DS and they have agreed to
I basically want to add my name into Ds name so he doesn't feel upset about me reverting to my maiden name .
My husband won't agree obviously so the courts are going to make a decision based upon why I want to do it
I think I need to move on and just have the fear that our 7 year feels rejected by this decision
What do you think ?

Thank you

My final hearing was earlier this year, and the judge followed CAFCASS' recommendations to the t. X now has indirect contact through a charity that runs contact centres. For £10 per letter they vet whatever he sends, which is great, because now I don't have to have anything to do with him or his games. If CAFCASS is this clear on him, you should be okay as well. Hang in there, freedom is close .