following on from previous, just broke up with BF - feel so sad and down :(

[mollya94]

following on from my previous post - www.mumsnet.com/Talk/relationships/2480974-Relationship-advice-Very-long-story

I finally admitted to DP that we weren't working out, explained I would still pay for my share of the rent bills etc until he lease is up. said basically this isn't gong the way I picture my life etc.

he got very upset and so did I - didn't get much sleep last night but what makes this worse is I'm not able to go to my mums house to stay until Friday so we still have to stay in the house together.
any advice on picking myself up from feeling so down?
I think it might make it a little better going to my mams house to stay but even then I don't want to fall back into the trap of absence makes the heart grow fonder and want him back when I know this is for the best and we cannot stay in this situation its not fair or healthy on either of us.
do I just stay out of his way for the next couple of days and focus on packing a little weekender bag to take to my mams house?
He's at work Thursday & Friday night so that's not a big deal but I don't want to give him any kind of false hope that this can be worked on when iv made my mind up, the problems involved are something that aren't fixable (e.g. his baggage kids, past ex involved etc)
it may seem shallow but I would like a relationship where im able to get up on weekends and go out places with my DP without having kids involved, maybe I can put this down to experience on what I want out of a relationship but the hurt feeling is still so raw at the minute.

Thank you for any advice you can give me on this situation and what to do to 'pick myself up' again x

I didnt read your previous thread,but any kind of relationship takes time to get over to kind of grieve accept what has happened,to accept the hopes you had arent viable and even the memories remind you continually of the relationship.
it is a very difficult time and it will take time im afraid to get past these feelings,i think you just constantly have to remind yourself that yes there were good times and bad times and the relationship is over,try and retain the positivity from the end of the relationship andjust fake it if you cant cope.
I think you need to use this time to catch up on books youve not read or films youve not watched, maybe sort your wardrobe out ;;;just do something to keep your mind busy.

Just read your previous post. Were you aware he had children when you met him?

Splitting up is a difficult time for anyone, whatever the reason and circumstances.

Do you still work with your partner?

Can you make plans with friends to be out on weds and Thur evenings? Or even just go to the flicks on your own, so you're not sitting around awkwardly being silent.

Have you moved into the spare room for now? I would maybe buy a couple of books, nothing you have to concentrate on too much, and just spend the next couple of nights holed up on there reading.

If it gets really unbearable could you go to a travelodge for a couple of nights?