Hi all. Im new firstly and yes Im a Dad. I hope this is ok. Ive only ever used this website/forum from afar for hints and tips on bringing up my boys. Been very helpful but never posted. The reason I post is just for some advice regarding my relationship with my wife. We have been married for almost 8 years and together for over 10 years and have 3 gorgeous boys. We had kids early into marriage only being married on our own for 1.5 years. We rarely have any sort of regular sex, around once every couple of weeks or monthly is some instances. But she hates it and she has for a long time. Last year she almost ended up having an affair but it never got to that stage as it all came to the surface when I confronted her after a tip off from a friend. She denied it at first but eventually after days of arguing she admitted it. We want to stay together because we get on really well and we love each other very much. (Im sure she does)(She does tell me as I tell her). What I dont know what to do is how to fix the physical relationship. Its always been a bit of touchy subject in our relationship from the start. She says she just plain doesnt enjoy it and never has in her life even before I met her. I do enjoy it and I would like our relationship to include that side of life more regularly and for both of us to want to and to enjoy it. I suppose Im also just wondering if other couples in a similar situation with kids that sex is just a no no. Or am I unreasonable to want that and go on about it as much as I do with her. she hates talking about it etc. Im just at a loss. Any help please. Or if this is the wrong place please let me know too.