What are the most important things for you in aa marriage?

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Just being nosy really. Mine are

Respect
Affection/ kindness
Taking my views/ thoughts into consideration
(Bringing up breakfast in bed weekly.)

Not making my own cup of tea.

Communication - being able to talk to each other about everything
Affection - feeling loved and desired
Respect - each other's feelings and views are important

I'm sure there is more in my head but those are my main 3

Honesty and openness
Affection
Respect

Similar goals / dreams - all the love in the world won't help if you ultimately want very different lives

Communication - I know DH and I went through a patch of only talking about kids, family logistics and household stuff. Unsurprisingly we were both unhappy - we gave our selves a mutual kick up the backside to get back to actually talking to each other as people not housemates

Communication
Humour
Friendliness/ assuming the best of each other (not point scoring)
Shared world views on big things
Respect
Equality

Communication is top for me, from the most trivial mundane thing to the big issues.

Kindness and thoughtfulness.

Enjoying each other's company.

Shared history and shared dreams for the future.

Honesty
Communication
Affection
Respect
Love

All the above and:
Loyalty
Working as a team
Love
Time and patience to understand how each learns with life's crises such as bereavement, illness, etc

I thought this was going to be a thread about supporting each other through alcohol addiction.

Laughter & friendship
Incredible sex & affection
Fantastic father

IME it's knowing that we are not the same but we are equals, and then everything else flows from that. I don't mean that tritely, there is effort and some sacrifice involved. For me and my OH the experiences of previous relationships help greatly, so if only in that sense there was some benefit gained from them. I think this is sounding like an advert for serial monogamy so I'll stop here .

Kindness. Enjoyment of time together, whether you spend that making each other laugh or trainspotting. Sex you both enjoy, whatever that might be for you. Being in each other's corner.

Trust. Communication. Shared happiness. Fun. Teamwork. Love.

To me it boils down to being a team.
You work together to get things done.
You agree on your end goals, and those goals benefit everyone.
If one of you needs help, the other is there to support.
And you cheer each other on and take pride in each others' achievements.

Respect
Attraction
Humour
Affection
Support
Love (although love for me is a combination of the above five)
Similar morals
Similar views on finances

Kindness
Shared sense of humour
Support
Shared philosophical/political views
Attraction - good sex

Timely communication
Affection
Honesty

Pocket saviour thats a really good summary/thank you.