I've been in this situation once, long time ago, a really nice guy brought me on a first date, honestly, there was absolutely nothing wrong with him, any girl would love him as a boyfriend.
Thing is, I wasn't remotely attracted/interested in him, So, after the first date, he contacted me again and set up a second date. Oh God, even thinking about it now, I felt in such a dilemma whether to go or not. I know most girls would say, just text and be honest, its not going to work, but the thing for me was:
- He called to our work regularly and we all got on really well with him.
- I wouldn't have been as confident or assertive as I am now, so I really felt bad for him.Thought I should have the manners to say it to his face.
So, I did go, Jesus, it was excruciating!, firstly, I had it all set out in my head how I was going to tell him, this wasn't going to work. ( my friends all thought this was hilarious that I got so worked up about it.) I remember sitting in the bar and he was about 30 mins late and I thought Oh thank God, he's not going to show, I felt so relieved, this would make it easier, as I was just about to leave, I saw him walking into the bar, when he saw me, he put his finger in his mouth and started the " are you cross with me, I am sooo sorry!, I couldn't get parking".
The night was torture, I couldn't get a word in, he started the WE are going to go to his parents holiday home for a romantic break, he started describing the holiday home in detail, as if to impress me. Then, he starts, I am going to help him give up cirgarettes, I am going to help him, lose weight, he had a whole plan mapped out for me, you couldn't make it up. I just stopped him and said" look I am really sorry, but, I am really busy with work at the moment and I don't have time for a relationship", it was awful the lies just flowed out of me, I remember the look on his face.
So, he took me home and barely a word was exchanged. I can still remember the relief I felt when I got home.
I think it was a month or so later, he came into our workplace and started going on to me about this wonderful girl he met and he was crazy about her, I told him I was sooooo happy for him, and I was.
Morale of the story, if you don't want to go on a second date with this guy, don't. Above all else, be true to yourself and don't do anything you don't want to, put yourself first, he'll get over it.