Apologies if this turns in to an essay. I need to unload. Partner of about 3 months. Everything right now is amazing. He is loving, attentive, supportive, in constant contact, very very affectionate and very serious about the relationship. Sounds good right?
Very early on, a couple of weeks in and when only a couple of physical things had happened I was contacted by another woman to say she had found out he was seeing me and binned him. At that point if he had been dating other people I wouldn't have raised an eyebrow - I wasn't but I would have thought nothing of it. I was also not really invested at that point. I was quite horrified by this contact. Dp has resolutely denied it and stuck to his story even though I have said 'look the poly dating isn't an issue, only lying about it is' he retains his position. I went around in circles with this for some time and think I am left with the choice between turning a blind eye (I would rather I hadn't been informed in the first place) or not continuing with the relationship.
Fast forward to today and dp has been questioning why I don't really trust him 100%. I was quite blunt about the above being the reason. He remains very patient and he has done everything I have asked him to do. He really is a great partner but this thing with the other girl hangs over me. I try to be stoic about it and say this is just dating and not to over invest anyway but he is so keen and very invested in me it's very confusing.
I keep trying to second guess him in a way I wouldn't normally - like is he over compensating etc. Really very confused 