Do I tell the police?

[whateverloser]

That's it in a nutshell really. Nasty split with dh- I have posted about him before. We have 5dcs - he doesn't see them or financially support them. Cms involved, but a waste of time really. Anyway, heated exchange by email last night. He emailed me that he would kill me 'if need be'. Is it worth letting them know, or would I be seen as to blame, for having contact with him?

I would definitely also call Women's Aid.

Can you seek advice about the forgeries abroad? What would happen if you refused to pay?

I'm not paying the ones abroad. I have a crime reference number so they removed me from the debt. I am paying things that were in my name and so technically I am responsible for. He did the money - yes I know, so stupid of me. I have attachment of earnings orders and so have no choice but pay. I would have to give up work to not pay.

It's just really crappy.

Did the police say what time they were coming?

They have phoned twice to say they are coming. I think they are taking it seriously

Good.

And the best of luck for it.

Goodluck

Thank you. I sometimes need reminding that this is wrong. I have been conditioned to think it is all my fault. I have felt guilty for driving him to.another woman. I did no such thing, I can see that now. He is a master at mind games.

It is not and never was your fault...

Ask the police about the forgery and debt and anything else. If they can refer you to any organisation or gov dept etc for advice and help. I have seen in the newspaper notice to all who read that sosandso is not liable for ex's debts. Can you ask a lawyer in a free 1/2 hour how to do this. Actually since it gets published in ad sections of newspapers ask them. I cannot see how a forged signature puts you in the legal sit of paying his debts. He can be arrested and charged for this . Not as if it will interupt maintenance payments, so what would you have to lose. Pursue all avenues to get free of the mess he has left you with. Each little victory will empower you and make you feel better.

Well unfortunately, the police didn't turn up. I waited up, but ended up going to sleep. Just woke up and haven't heard from them at all. The debt I'm paying amarmai aren't forged signatures- they were things I had signed and not thought anything of. I thought they were being paid. I'm not paying for anything where my signature was forged. There are two things I know of ( there could be more) but they total € 100,000+ . The one debt in the Uk I will be paying till I retire. The attachment of earnings is low and manageable but because I am in a reliable job, they have only pursued me- they have given up on him. Apparently that is perfectly legal to do, because they were joint debts. He is a rogue- through and through. He is seen as the victim though because people don't know about all this. He is very good at being the victim.

Whatever, chase the police up this morning. You need to see somebody, this is a much bigger issue than just an e-mail.